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Oct 5 2019 01:01pm
Quote (Underneath @ Sep 25 2019 12:12am)
Thanks for the input, but I need to clarify that I do those things for her because I WANT to because I love her. I would love to have a girl have that same desire as well, doing whatever for me because she wants to.

Also, I should have mentioned that she has school AND work (I only work 25 hrs a week but get paid full time), so she is a lot busier than I am, therefore it simply makes more sense for me to do most of the cooking. However, I'm saying on her days off where she doesn't have work and doesn't have much school work, she still needs me to help her, when it would be nice for her to do it on her own, since I always do it on my own as well. She's not manipulative haha, she simply has less time than I do. That's also why if I do break up with her, I'm not dating a girl that's still in school anymore, unless it's her last year in grad school.

Furthermore, I'm actually quite glad I moved in with her after only 1.5 years together. All the small things that we hate about each other surfaced, so I'm glad I figured those things out early rather than later where it would be even harder to break up with her because we woulda been together for more than our current 2.5 years. This way, it saves me wasted time, if I do end up deciding to break up with her.


You’re stuck with settling if the bolded thing here is true.
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Oct 5 2019 01:15pm
Honestly just break up, going in only half sure doesn’t help anyone. These feelings you’re having will only get worse over time until you’re eventually always unhappy or cheat, then things will complicated after marriage, with the kids.
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Oct 5 2019 01:23pm
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Honestly just break up, going in only half sure doesn’t help anyone. These feelings you’re having will only get worse over time until you’re eventually always unhappy or cheat, then things will complicated after marriage, with the kids.


That was one of the main reasons why I decided to end it
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Oct 5 2019 03:07pm
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That was one of the main reasons why I decided to end it


Just read the update. You made the right decision imo based on the stuff posted.
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Oct 18 2019 12:17am
Quote (dude_927 @ Sep 25 2019 05:33am)
I suspect if you force the equality you want (ie. Only doing 50% of cooking or whatever) she will not want to continue the relationship but generally my advice is the "fuck it, im doing what i want, lets see if this shit comes crashing down" method.


This is a solid method
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Oct 19 2019 05:59am
Quote (Drakwen @ Oct 5 2019 12:01pm)
You’re stuck with settling if the bolded thing here is true.


no lmao.. it's his first girlfriend

sometimes you realize that love is bullshit especially if you've only had one girlfriend
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Oct 21 2019 09:46am
Damn been in similar situations.. just remember people are who they are and aren’t likely to change much
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Oct 21 2019 10:43am
That’s just how relationships are... sometimes it’s 50/50 sometimes it’s 20/80 sometimes it’s 0/100 or vice versa. What it really comes down too is if you think it’s worth it to share these %’s with.

If you do decide to break up you with her , you cannot allow yourself to regret making that decision. Ultimately it’s what you decided and will have to take responsibility for and live with.

This post was edited by sonicwave on Oct 21 2019 10:51am
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