Quote (Underneath @ Sep 25 2019 10:38pm)
Ah, I understand how you perceive a relationship to be. Man = alpha male dominant, woman = submissive. I respect that, and I agree to a certain extent, not fully in the way you explained however. I'm more of an equal/equal kind of guy when it comes to doing things in the relationship. I definitely feel like a girl should do most of the cooking/cleaning, etc, but if she's working and she has a successful career like my girl does (she's a pharmacist), then I'm all for equality 50/50. Not sure where you got this "she's taking up all your time so you have a mediocre job" is coming from. At 25, I've worked as an engineer and supervisor in the aerospace manufacturing industry, and now work for the government doing air quality, where I'm certain I will retire here, so I would say I've had a pretty successful career thus far. Me doing things for her, I do SIMPLY because I have a lot more time than she does, and it just makes sense for me to do them for that reason. No need to overanalyze that, saying she's manipulating me and I don't even realize it, or stepping all over me (in response to Bellamy). That's just crazy talk, out of misunderstanding the situation.
All I was wondering is, am I being a fool for considering leaving her and all these memories behind, for the 2 reasons I mentioned? And mentioned my fear of not finding better, which you guys have reassured me, that yes I am young and have time to search the sea. Bellamy, sorry but you simply do not understand why I posted. As I've said, I'm 50/50, and yet you think I'm looking for some kind of "confirmation bias"? I've done some thinking over the past few days, and I'll have to say I'm actually leaning towards breaking up with her. I just need to make sure my head is straight, and I've thought it over fully, before pulling the trigger for good.
Thanks for the input
Yeah, I didn't necessarily mean to insinuate that you had a subpar career, I was tired at the time and was just writing what came to mind without editing, hence the lack of paragraphs in my text. What I meant was, you should still be focusing on yourself, not just your career, but gaining life experience and developing yourself are just as important at your age. I just meant, don't sit back and fall into this trap where you settle for a less than satisfactory lifestyle with someone who is not working with you as a team. Don't become complaisant and stagnate. There's still so much to experience in life, and look what you're doing as a result of your so called partner. I know how hard it is to leave someone you have a long history with, it's so easy to talk yourself out of leaving, but trust me, if things were right between you pair, you wouldn't be on here talking about leaving her. 50% is a huge percentage of you that doesn't want to be with her. Actions speak louder than words, so regardless of if you want to permanently leave her or not, you need to make a stand and leave to show her you are not putting up with her lack of effort and respect for you and the relationship. Either she sees the error of her ways and changes or you have sped up the inevitable. Either way it is win/win.
Answer me this, does the girl set your soul on fire and motivate you to be a better man? Does a simple smile from her turn your entire day around from negative to positive? Would you die for this girl?
If the answer is no (which I am guessing it is after reading your posts) then she is not the one my friend.