There’s this new girl at my job. I don’t really know her but was immediately drawn to her based on her looks and wanted to get to know her better. She gave me her number with relative ease. I would try to text and advance the conversation in a forward direction. She started running cold so I decided to let it be and move on. So I don’t text her for like a week. She runs into me at work one day and mentions I haven’t texted her and to contact her. So I do, and again I’m making conversation and pushing the ball forward and she runs cold. Again I decide that I’m done. Now she texts me out of the blue in a very colloquial fashion. Yet again she takes an hour to respond and seems disinterested even though she’s the one who initiated.

My thoughts are she’s just enjoying the attention and game playing whether it be intentional or not. Any thoughts on her motives?

She probably likes attention. Have you asked her? If you're interested in her just tell her.

I felt being very explicit was a bit heavy handed. I was just trying to let this flow naturally and see where it went. I was fine with it going no where. After putting this in writing and reading it back I feel fairly confident she’s just interested in attention since she always finds a way to re-initiate contact after she senses I’ve stopped pursuing her.

This post was edited by irunwithscisors on Jul 29 2018 12:43am

you trying to get something out of her?
if not, just enjoy the friend? idk
what are YOU trying to do here is important
if she's a part of that then so be it

if I had to guess, she wants you to talk to her, and isn't the best at keeping up with her phone.
sounds like the perfect girl

You have to be the water. Water cuts through stone, though it may take time.

nice

My guess is she's looking for a man who is actually going to ask her out on a date.

Be direct. Ask her out.

You're acting like a woman. Trying to read her moves, etc. Just lay your cards out, women usually won't ask you out, they want you to lead things and take the initiative.

Honestly. For women, they get tons of guys that just text. Texting is really a waste of time. Im not a fan of it at all, its fine and great for short blurbs. But it shouldnt be your method of getting to know someone. You don't make good memories and develop attraction through texts, you do it by having fun in person.

- even if you get rejected, at least you were direct and a man about it. She'll respect you for that.

This post was edited by GLYC123 on Jul 30 2018 12:01am

Gonna have to go with this, with emphasis on the bolded section.

She could also be only talking to you when she's bored.

Act less interested. Play hard to get.

Yeah, girls love what they can't have.