Ukraine isn't seeking military dominance, just enough defense capacities to deter Russia from coming back. The big question is just how this could be accomplished.
It has become clear by now that the NATO countries aren't committed enough to the Ukrainian cause to risk actual war with Russia. Was kinda evident for years, all the Trump admin did was end the charade and make it official. On the flip side, the Europeans and Americans clearly don't trust Ukraine enough to equip them with actually strong weapons with which they could inflict truly hurting wounds on Russia in case of a future escalation. See all the dithering of Europeans about long-range missiles, or how it took years until they greenlit a small handful of older jets. And as yesterday's spat shows, Ukraine isn't fully trustworthy, so we really don't want to arm them up too much. See your point about the risk of a coup by the Azovites. (Which I think you're overstating, but it is indeed a possibility.)
This is precisely what was being litigated in front of the whole world at this press conference. It
is a question of military dominance. The only guarantee Ukraine can have against Russia being a threat, is a military threat that would make invasion impossible. That means NATO presence, or nukes. Or simply beating Russia in a war and the Russians capitulating. That's the thing about victors in a war, the losers don't get to dictate the terms and demand a future where they have the dominant position. What guarantee did imperial japan have that America wouldn't pillage the japanese homelands and take their women as sex slaves like they had done in china and korea? Unconditional surrender. What guarantees did nazi germany have? When the Israelis and Palestinians or Hezbollah agree to their umpteenth ceasefire, what guarantees do they get it will never happen again?
You are hitting the nail on the head that NATO was never going to commit to Ukraine when it risks world war 3. And its been clear since the war began, and its why I kept calling out how suicidal and destructive the ukrainian ultranationlists infecting the Biden administration were, because they weren't just compromising American interests, they were going to get get Ukraine destroyed in the pull between east and west. Russia was always willing to invest force to secure their own back yard and we weren't willing to step in with a nuclear ultimatum that we would defend Ukraine even if it meant the brink of armageddon. We don't know whether such a threat would be a bluff or get called or get us all killed, because Biden meekly stood back and told Russia directly we would not fight on Ukraine's behalf and stood down so very publicly. And all the consequences have played out just as predictably as we expected, and when the next step we expect is all those weapons in the hands of an azovite coup, well that doesn't bode well