Quote (Armani_Code @ Jun 1 2011 11:12am)
That's the thing, I used to collect baseball cards, just waste of money now, was more a childhood thing.
On other notes, my hobbies I had that I loved, I lost the love for them and the motivation.
I took up brazilian jiu jitsu, got mononucleosis, and stopped going for a month + and lost love for it.
Same with basketball, tennis, and baseball, each of which I was very successful in high school and first two years of college.
I just don't feel I have the time for hobbies, internships and school take up a lot of time.
As for the women aspect, most of the ones I was very interested in are gone, graduated and moved away although both are only an hour or two drive.
As per your reply, this tells me a lot about you...moreso than the original post.
Let me explain a few things...first of all, forget about time for a minute, and forget about reasons why something "can't" happen. I want you to genuinely think about WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. Just stop and think about it. Pretend the world is currently standing still right now...and there is nothing else going on...and you can freely pick whatever you want to do (within reason - no murdering people or flying around on jet packs lol). After you come to this realization, please do tell me what it is (if you feel like you can share it).
If you feel that you can't share it, I highly advise for you to start changing your life to accommodate that. Think about this for a minute...pretend you are in law school, and you hate it. Pretend your real passion is cooking....but you feel there isn't any money in that, or you feel that you won't be a good enough success, or you don't want to go to school for it. You need to immerse yourself in what you LOVE. Forget the laws school, forget every aspect of your life that is dragging you down. I am enabling you to become liberated from the chains of modern life which restrict us and prevent us from doing what we truly want to do that makes us happy, all for fear of not making enough money, or from fear of not being successful. If there's one thing I've learned in my years...it's that success and money ALWAYS come with something you truly love, are passionate about, and dedicate yourself to....no matter how silly or different it might be.
I IMPLORE you to please sit down and think about what really makes you happy....not like just a little happy...I mean deep down inside happy...content...proud of yourself, and so forth.
Secondly, as for women...there are two sides to your issues...first of all...there will never be just TWO women who you are interested in...not a chance. There will be thousands of women that you will at some point meet or come in contact with that you would genuinely like to cultivate a relationship with IF you allowed yourself the time and opportunity to do so. Sometimes you have to LET GO of what "was" and move onto something that "will be."
the other point about those women....so what if these two different girls moved 1-2 hours away....if you REALLY cared enough for either of them...you would drive yourself down there and spend some time with them. After all what is 1-2 hours down and another 1-2 hours back if it makes you happy? If you tell me that the 1-2 hour drive in each direction doesn't make you happy...then you genuinely don't care about either of them...and I mean that.
When you meet a woman that you absolutely fall for, you are going to move mountains to be able to see her...you will do pretty much anything. It's a weird feeling and it overtakes you...the next step in that puzzle is deciding whether or not she deserves it or not...but that's a different issue.
Please read and take in all that I have said, and take the time to realize what genuinely makes you happy...and really soul search before replying back. If it helps, meditate first....dark silent room, sitting or laying in a position of comfort, eyes closed, focus on NOTHING but your breathing....do this for as long as it takes for you to be at peace....and then ask yourself the question(s)