My ex gf and I broke up 6 month ago, I felt pretty much ok after about a month, and now I don't even think about her. I've since got a new one

I notice that I don't actually care about the relationship being over but when it hurt it was only hurting at the idea of her moving on to someone else. It felt like if she died or I knew she wasnt going to move on I didnt care. Only the thoughts of her moving on to someone else hurt. Thinking about her going to movies or laying in bed talking about her day at night or being intimate with someone

This has happened with every major relationship ending I've ever had. I just thought the psychology of that was really weird. It's like I don't want the person anymore (you still care about them but it's just not a good match for whatever reason ), but I don't want anyone else to have them either . I've heard of this on the part of the person who got dumped.. usually a jealous guy who says if I can't have you no one can.. but it seems weird to me for me to be the one who ended the relationship because we were having issues and still having the POV of not wanting her to have anyone else even though I had to move on. Anyone else had this ?

That’s why you always dump the other person before they dump you.

Great advice. I agree completely.

Tyvm

Keep the fake posts. I mean great advice coming

Sorry to be the Devil's advocate, but people are replacable. Unique, but replacable.
She may meet someone else who she will probably consider to be better than you in most if not all aspects. Demonizing you is also a very easy solution of getting over you.

Wouldn't you want her to move on? I mean like, be glad for her, y'know? You moved on also. It doesn't mean that she's forgotten about all you have shared, and if she did then good riddance. Having split up doesn't necessarily mean you have to minimize what you had in the past. That's a shortcoming.

Gl

Past relationships are all trails , you learn from each one. When you meet the one for you , she will be all that matters and you wont think of your exs and if you do its only to better yourself for the one you truly love , for example " i would never treat her this way like i did ..... " ya know? yiou will eventually not give a crap once you find the one truly for you. Also m your a man and all men in some sort of way "mark your territory" some part of you still thinks shes yours , get over it.

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I dont know how long your relationships, but talking with my own experience sometimes it hurts when finished becouse you feel all the time, respect and love you invested all that time was for nothing at the end...

That’s why when you notice your SO stops making effort you dump her before he/she dumps you. You’ll feel much better