Been using okcupid, pof, and christiandatingforfree.... how about you guys?

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I used okcupid for a while just because it was free. It was like a fulltime job. Some messages that were genuine and full of interest, went unread. Some messages to the same girl that were like "you should respond" got me to date her for 6 months. It was an interesting social study. I found that the friends % was the most important to match on.

Sadly, like the real world, every girl on there is getting 250 messages per day so just to get them to see yours and your profile is tough.

Met my wife the old fashioned way. Through mutual friends and drinking.

OLD is just tough to really get into due to social proof, abundance mentality for women, and not to mention you must pay subscriptions to get ahead of other people who are sending them 18501391841 messages.

I dont use these things but people in work use something called hinge

That is true.

I actually think it has gotten more difficult as time has progressed and I've came back to it, despite my newest profile being my best. There is likely a lot of competition, with the top 5-10% of men taking their pick of the women's profiles that are really interested in meeting the men of that caliber.

I've had a good number of "likes" on my profiles. But, the quality of a lot of those women isn't what I'm looking for.
And the times where I have matched with a woman I'm actually potentially interested in, it just doesn't go anywhere.

Little effort from the more attractive women, which, honestly, it's not fun. Huge abundance of options for them, they're honestly overwhelmed and people sometimes likely get caught in that mentality of "but is this person my best option? Who else is on there". Plus, not everyone takes it seruously.

I'm really not complaining as I've met some good women through it all and had some good dates. But overall, the time vs reward analysis, isn't that great.

I think it's worth it to try OLD, and I would put effort into creating a good profile (good clear pictures capturing you in different activities or environments, few selfies), and a decent bio. However, I wouldn't spend 3 hours a night scrolling through profiles.

You would be in a much better spot to spend that time on self-improvement and actually going out to restaurants, parks, fun+new locations with friends, you might meet a smile with someone and it can work well.

I've definitely had much more effortless dating experiences with the women I've met in person. The best part was, it just felt effortless, I usually just threw a dumb line or two and it went from there.

Overall. TLDR.
Worth trying out, I wouldn't have huge expectations but it might work in your favor, I know several people who met their SO from apps.

I like Bumble, I feel it has more higher quality people. But Tinder is pretty good for some people too.

This post was edited by GLYC123 on Nov 23 2019 02:12pm

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