Majority of people I talk to in my life are women, be it co-workers, family, or friends... and a lot of their opinions on relationships and love may be geared towards women inadvertently

Most women I talk to simply say "Do nothing, allow the right relationship to come to you"

From my perspective I feel like this is illogical. How do you get something for nothing? My whole life I've lived by effort = results.

What do you all think? I think men should take initiative to find their mate no matter how many failures he should have

Yes

Love and relationships aren't magic. You don't wait for the witch to cast her romance spell

Nothing in life comes without daily effort to obtain, maintain and achieve

That applies to finding love and keeping the relationship it lives within

This post was edited by Beowulf on Dec 29 2017 02:18pm

do whatever you want

Never ask a fish how to catch other fish. Ask a fisherman

I suggest using dating sites for more dates and being very clear about what you want up front. Youll scare away all of the riffraff right off the bat

That said, you should also have a detatched attitude like they said, dont force something to work. Just have a few opportunities open at a time and see where they go

Great advice. 100% agree. Make your intent clear.
Don't force things.

The passive approach is a feminine thing, go for what you want. But make yourself a great catch, always keep working towards goals. It will make things easier.

Work out, focus on career.

Sometimes it will find you even when you don’t look for it.

But you should at least put yourself out there, whether it’s dating apps or hitting the clubs/ bars.