I coulda wrote mental illness in the title but didnt. Albeit I do acknowledge the male population 20-50s have mental illness. Even then we are still boyfriends, husbands, dads.

When reading reddit I notice a lot of women bandwagoning on divorcing their male partners due to incompetence (eg: he doesn't help with the kids).

I ask you men of d2jsp, what does it mean to be a good man, especially with mental health struggles?

I hope that you get a diversity of answers to that question. Relationships, whether they are loving, partnerships, and/or out of necessity have their own unique needs and methodologies for problem solving.

Just be a normal person. It's the easiest thing in the fucking world.

I used to think like you. Until I realized being normal was just a persona and that "normal" was a moving goal post. Today's normal won't last until tomorrow hun

You didn't used to be like me because you're apparently confused on what normal is, since you claim that you kept needing to move the goal post. Normal is just normal, regardless of how everyone else acts. Most people are a bunch of fucking idiots. Don't be like that.

Neah I can't be stubborn like you. My normal needs to move to generate equilibrium across the pressure gradient. When your environment changes, you need to adapt.

Put the games on hold to help out.

Easy

Put gaming on hold? I just started shivering.

You have to be emotionally available, make them feel heard, help out around the house, acknowledge them, buy them flowers, take them on dates, don't try to control them, treat them as an equal and treat them the same way you treated them when you first started talking to them. Oh and you have to be consistent

That's not being normal.