Some years ago, a “friend” kicked me out of his group because I was late to do renovation work at his place - work I was doing for free.

So I said “fuck it” and left. I wasn’t that involved in his group anyway, but we had been friends for about 4 to 5 years before that. During that time, I did a lot of work for him for free.
He didn’t have a driver’s license and was the kind of person who would come home from work and just stay there because of his “lack of mobility.” Taking public transport somewhere wasn’t really an option for him. If you invited him somewhere, it was always like: “Okay, when are you going to pick me up from home?”

After years of silence, he suddenly moved close to where I live. Out of nowhere, he texted me and invited me to see his new place. I’m not an asshole, so I said yes and went to check it out.
Then he invited me again when some other friends were coming over to see his new home. That was fine too, although there was always this awkward feeling in the room for me, knowing that he had been a complete asshole about eight years ago.

After talking for a while, I found out that over the past years he had basically pushed away or lost almost all of his friends.

I thought to myself: no problem.. he’s not going to become my friend again. But then he wouldn’t stop texting me and inviting me over to his place again and again.
At some point I asked him what was going on and whether he was just bored or had nothing to do. I was a bit harsh on purpose, just to make it clear that I’m not the guy from the old days who would sit next to him every day hanging out.

Now he’s sitting at home bored all the time, still without a car, and at least once a week he asks me to pick him up from work because u know, public transport is not really an option for him. He has also started texting people from the past again. Last time he even proudly told me that he apologized to his former best friend and went out for a beer with him after eight (!) years.
Honestly, I’m kind of sick of it. But at the same time I can’t bring myself to tell him to just fuck off. I’m not sure if he has actually changed, but I’m too busy to find out, and I don’t really need any “new” friends.
In reality, I mostly just pity him.

Someone had an experience like that on his own?

Yeah

These are parasites, you remove them immediately from your life.
Along with anyone that relies on others to do things for them for free, or leeches off society in other ways.

This post was edited by lolkggz on Mar 4 2026 09:38am

some "friends" get upset when they think you are not doing enough for them. seems like he is doing some regretting which is probably good that he is reflecting. still hard to have trust in a person that broke it.

i had a friend in high school who went 'gay. when it was obvious i wanst going to be "doing it" with him we went our separate ways. was along time ago. 30 plus years?

Aint gotta lie to kick it.

whats up code talker. ..

Oh sorry.

You do not have to lie to hang out in GC.

one of my 'gay stories.
i was out in the real world and a 'gay dude asked me if i was 'gay. i told him i was a homophobe. i figure he figured he wasnt in a safe space and he stopped talking to me.
'gay always has ta do tha 'gay flirt.
curious thing about name calling. the purpose is to shape a persons response by putting the on the defensive. but the "homophobe " slur kinda back fired. people thought about it and said sure ok im a homophobe lol epic fail

i identify as super straight, respect my pronouns or i report you for sexual harassment

This post was edited by TiStuff on Mar 4 2026 09:50am

What is wrong with you...?

.
Some examples of friendship are:
- friendships: mutually beneficial, mutually place things to the side when there's an emergency
- casuals: similar interests, do activities together, but are not thinking of each other all of the time
- coworkers: very shallow interactions, conversations: "The coffee is good today," "Yup."
- parasites: gimme, gimme, gimme ad infinitum