okay, i dont understand much english, im unsure of how to charge spells and in what order
Your 3 main charged up skills are Phoenix Strike (PS) charge #2, Claws of Thunder (CoT) charge #3, and Cobra Strike (CS) charge #3.
When you charge up, you will see an orb rotate around you for each charge. It gets hard to see when there are many orbs, so always start with PS so you can make sure you see 2 orb.
This is to prevent using the charge #1 or 3 from PS, they're really not as good as the #2.
Don't charge Fist of Fire, put only 1 point in it.
You can charge/lvl up Blades of Ice (BoI), but it's not as important as the 3 main skills I mentioned above. It's good to deal with light immunes tho, if you don't have gear like a light sunder, griff, infinity merc.
PS 2 (first)
CoT 3
CS 3
is all you need on a high end build.
But also charge up BoI until you have light sunder, griff, infinity merc
If at some point you don't gain any life/mana back from CS (against monsters you should normally be able to leech from), PM me and I'll help you fix the leech overflow bug.