Quote (YaC @ Apr 18 2013 10:53am)
empathy = avoidant disorder? never thought of this. but it does make some sense. if u have a lot of empathy etc. u are too worried to say smth. unacceptable, which could hurt the other person. so you avoid the social setting all together.
y i believe that if u cannot express yourself and cant get rid of anger etc. that this could create a psychotic state. the psychopath in contrast seems to have a remorseless need to express himself.
often their anger does not seem real. they might seem very upset, but in the next second completely normal. what's typical: they insult u and say sorry in the next second, then insult u again. lol
well i didnt mean only people with avoidant disorder have empathy

normal people have empathy too, its just that people with avoidant disorder always need to know they are liked, so they develop insane empathy to "read" it. they read body language, tone, everything

but yes, if they think something will hurt the other person, they tend to avoid the situation

and yeah, psychopaths have a low tolerance of frustration and have those "short-circuit" reactions where they want something immediately (antisocial, narcissistic, histrionic disorder), pretty much acting like little kids: if you say you dont wanna buy the kid a toy, it starts to cry, lie if needed, break other toys, rage like that crazy warcraft kid etc. they rarely say sorry though, because of a lack of compassion. when they get what they want, their anger ends abruptly and thats why it doesnt seem real, as you noticed
