Alright, since I am the only other monk in BC and I just happen to be a hybrid healer monk I guess this is my area of expertise.
Im going to be honest with you Gelinda. This is a expensive build. If you do it right though, you can use the same gear for rogue/sammy/monk/ninja/mage.
Basically the idea is simple. For my character (More heal then damage but still more damage then alot of players) I use:
Dagger with ee/HM
Robe with HM/Int or HM/Dex or just HM(High hm needed if only HM)
Charm with HM/Dex
Focused heal on acc with as much ee as possible.
I dump ALL atats into INT for better heals because the monk has a good mix of starting stats.(This might change if I can ever get another ninja)
Examples of my gear:
Rare alloy dagger
Level Req: 15
Damage: 71 to 124
+94% Enhanced Effect
+26% Heal Mastery
Angelic fine alloy dagger
Level Req: 20
Damage: 75 to 132
+77% Enhanced Effect
+1 Magic Luck
+2% Armor Pierce
+25% Heal Mastery
Angelic diamond dagger
Level Req: 40
Damage: 141 to 247
+110% Enhanced Effect
+10% Experience Gained
+1% Physical Damage Reduction
+41% Heal Mastery
Mystical silk padded robe
Level Req: 15
Physical Defense: 0 to 13
Magical Defense: 18 to 46
+10 Dexterity
+1% Physical Damage Reduction
+30% Heal Mastery
Mystical nightshade padded robe
Level Req: 35
Physical Defense: 0 to 23
Magical Defense: 31 to 77
+17 Intelligence
+6 Life Regen
+38% Heal Mastery
Mythical spiderthread robe
Level Req: 55
Physical Defense: 0 to 16
Magical Defense: 43 to 130
+19 Vitality
+1 to 2 Life per Attack
+1 to 20 Life per Kill
+57% Heal Mastery
+1 Jubilance
Mythical fire X
Level Req: 35
Spell Damage: 46 to 124
Mana Cost: 77
+18 Dexterity
+2 Life Regen
+3% Magical Damage Reduction
+30% Heal Mastery
+1% Power Shot
Godly focused heal IV
Level Req: 5
Heals: 29 to 35
Mana Cost: 29
+3 Strength
+10 Dexterity
+3 Vitality
+1 Mana Regen
+1% Mind Numb
+2% Parry
+2% Mana Syphon
+20% Heal Mastery
Once again, this stuff was expensive and it took awhile to get it all together. Now if your looking for more damage and less heal the solution is simple. DEX DEX AND MORE DEX.
Hope this helped and you can always contact me with any questions you may have

