Ok have two char there monk never played them and unsure how to play them or what gear I need, I not want to be a healer as I solo as I play hc, As it seems hard to be a healer? Or can I do both kill and heal.

so what gear can a monk use
wepons dagger and staff only?
armor unsure on that one.
charms ee only?

Advice please and thank you. and Yes I am a Noob I just kill

It seems to me like you just want to melee using monk. The builds for melee characters are essentially all the same.

Weapon: highest ee possible (staff/dagger)
Armor: str/dex robe
Charm 1: str/dex charm
Charm 2: ee heal

This is probably your very basic melee character, but since you said you solo, you probably want to set some stats into intelligence (I use 60 base) to build a mana pool so you can heal yourself while killing in the arena.
In this case (your basic):

Weapon: highest ee possible (staff/dagger)
Armor: str/dex and int/hm robes (any combo of the left and right) and ee if possible
Charm 1: str/dex and int/hm robes (any combo of the left and right)
Charm 2: ee heal

Some of those stats can be substituted though. Instead of getting the int/hm with the melee combo, you can substitute it with life steal.
Many people can and will attest to the usefulness of life steal on your gear so you don't have to heal nearly as frequently.

There are many different possible "hybrid" builds people utilize so it's tough to target a specific build, it's all about preference.

Really great advice, just to add a little.

A lot of people don't like monk but I love my monk they are great hybrid chars and fun to solo.

One thing you are definitely going to want to do on HC for monk is stat your VIT up to 50 immediately.

I stat VIT to 50 then put the other starter points into INT, then stat INT until i get 50 hard points in it. After that (which is currently lvl 24 for me) I stat melee.

Just to give you an idea of an MQ build, this is mine for my hybrid monk

Rare godwood staff
Level Req: 55
Damage: 200 to 535

+230% Enhanced Effect
+1 to 22 Life per Kill

Angelic spiderthread robe
Level Req: 55
Physical Defense: 0 to 20
Magical Defense: 35 to 106

+39 Dexterity
+1% Magical Damage Reduction
+37% Heal Mastery
+5% Mana Skin

Rare earth X
Level Req: 35
Spell Damage: 50 to 88
Mana Cost: 77

+50 Strength
+99 Max Mana

Angelic heal XIV
Level Req: 55
Heals: 172 to 459
Mana Cost: 109

+223% Enhanced Effect
+19 Vitality
+1 to 22 Life per Kill
+1% Glancing Blow

Well thank you guys this is very helpfull and I can understand it too If I have any more question I will pm you (nag you both)
While I am low lvl I am learning about this heal thing and I will say this O MY GOD rolf they forgot to tell me press q after I heal too funny.
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