I need some Beginners help.
The Beginners Guide seems to be not actual
So i want to make a fighter
which weapon and armor should i choose?

Weapons:
whatever you can get with the highest ee possible.
I like using swords since they can be used on the first 3 classes (fighter/sammy/paladin), but they're also the most expensive.
The other option are clubs. They can only be used on feeder/paladin, but are the cheapest weapons out there.

Armor:
If you are going to tank, I would get scales/leathers with enhanced effect
If you want to deal more damage, I would get scales/leathers/chains/plates with stats (str/dex)

Charm:
Just a simple strength or dex charm is required here

Stats:
You want to have around 100 dex at lvl 55 with all of your equipment on (so base stats + statted points + stats from armor/charm) and then pour everything else into strength

and if i have chosen axes and platemails at the beginning
does it make any difference if i had chosen sword?
i still can use them

It doesnt make a huge difference, but if you pass to a samurai, you're going to have to buy swords/daggers to use a weapon on him