have a 35 str charm and a 27 str plate mail @ lvl 55

looking for a guide or just what dex should be at really

I would still aim to have around 100 dex at 55 with your gear on, so with your str armor/charm I would probably pump everything into dex lmk if you have any other questions

i saw in a guide like 2-3 days ago, axe pali's need 60dex minimum
120is max dex for any char imo