What works better? I want more damage higher hits / better average, I think dex would be better to get on charm and armor etc, but I need help deciding between that or strength..

A balance between the two is the way to go in my opinion.

I'd get dex gear and then pump strength shoot for 110 - 120 dex after your MQ gear and you should be poppin'

I'm a hybrid

Pump int til 40, then dex

But.. I melee purely til 40, with a small side of healing, and then at 40, I'm kinda 60/40

So from 1-40 what should I do?

Oh good - hybrids are totally the way to go. Get your intelligence up to 50 or 60 (I've done both on samurai and didn't notice a huge difference) and after that pump dexterity. Then just get strength gear all the way up and you should be golden

Awesome, thanks a lot

Meh I never found myself enjoying playing a hybrid but then again I could never afford Leet ass gear to go with it either..

And you need a hood mixture of strength and dex both when it comes to meleeing you go entirely one or entirely the other and you're disadvantaged in most cases.

Balancing 3 stats is even harder and I did multiple hybrid climbs before deciding to go back to straight melee w/ 100 dex. At least on pally class anyway I also usually put points in vit.

if you want damage, go pure strength.

if you're going arena, I'd say get 100dex.