where do you put your stats with a fighter?

10 of your points should either go into dex, str or vit (vit if you don't have decent gear). It depends on your gear as well whether you add to dex or str. If you have gear that adds to dex,you add to strength, and vice-versa. You want a balance of str and dex, and you shouldn't exceed 120 dex. Once you hit 120 dex with your gear on, add the rest to strength

Just to add a little, I'd say start with your first 10 points in strength if you have decent gear, and you'll want 100-130 dext by the time you have your MQ gear on. If you have any specific questions feel free to pm me to ask.