Stat point distribution really depends on your gear selection more than anything else. Regardless of gear dext should be at least 100 for melee in my optinion. 120-130 is better though, and with swords maybe even as high as 150.
Get some good heavy armors with strength or dexterity, charms with strength or dexterity, and your choice of axes, swords, or clubs for weapon. I'd recommend axes or swords personally.