I know a lot of you guys are younger here and there is 1 big piece of advice I have learned with lifting I wish I had a better knowledge of before.

If one day you actually make it become an aesthetic shredded sick kunt, you will likely get attention to an unthought of degree. As soon as I got really aesthetic and veins/striations I cant go out in public anymore without people saying something, mostly its the guys, but then the girls notice it and notice you are the alpha in the room and they become putty in your hands.

Well, I was living with the girl of my dreams, I was madly in love with her, she was amazing and MY best friend. She was the best personality match for me we had a home together, I loved her dogs, she took care of me I took care of her. Well, all of a sudden the aesthetics rolled in and I did what a lot of mid 20 year olds would do and started weighing my option. It was a choice of settling down or tasting life and actually giving all these girls a go. I took the second. BIGGEST mistake of my life.

This is what finally made me grow up and honestly has been the toughest/most painful thing to deal with in my life and I know everyone says it but I have been through a lot. A month after the breakup and probably 10 notches added, all of a sudden my ex who I had grown used to became a 10/10 again, my mind had grown to accustomed to seeing her and I missed that she was 10x more gorgeous than these girls coming on to me, but my guy brain made me think I needed to spread my seed and embrace my youth. Lately a lot of my friends in real life and even my brother have either done the same thing or contemplated it, luckily my brother and 1 other friend I was able to talk sense into.


Just don't ever let your head get so big that you don't see what you have right in front of you. It may sound minor but this has rocked my world for 6 months now not gotten any better.

damn you for speaking such truths. damn you

i've been in a similar situation. have not gotten to that level of aesthetics yet by far, the best i'll get is a "you have really broad shoulders" comment mostly from (really) old women

thanks for sharing, very solid advice imo.

This post was edited by Wretch on May 1 2015 08:40pm

Damn, that's rough. Solid advice. Good luck man.

yeah man the aesthetics don't even matter. I have gone from doing it for girls and attention a couple years ago to now I do it just for myself and to compete. After losing her I literally get nothing from a girl checking me out or hitting on me. After experience a real relationship with true love, it makes meaningless boning completely unappealing.
I never thought I would be the guy who didn't want attention from girls, but the only attention I care about quite honestly is critiques or compliments on my physique from a bodybuilding standpoint. Maybe im just getting old, but having something real and fulfilling really is 10000x better than hooking up with a 10/10.

just curious, how old r u?

u said uve been lifting for 10 years?

im 26 a few months from 27. I started lifting at 14 and took about 2 -3 years total off, a year here and there. I didn't get serious into lifting until I was 21, and then I didn't get into bodybuilding mode and actually have in depth knowledge until I was 24/25

lol thats pretty fail

if you loved her you wouldnt have left her

might be for the best

you are 100% wrong, its not so simple as if you love someone you wont ever leave them, as I explained.

I don't think the guy with an anime avatar can sufficiently weigh in on a relationship discussion

kek