Quote (SKCRaynor @ Jun 1 2011 02:13pm)
As per your reply, this tells me a lot about you...moreso than the original post.
Let me explain a few things...first of all, forget about time for a minute, and forget about reasons why something "can't" happen. I want you to genuinely think about WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. Just stop and think about it. Pretend the world is currently standing still right now...and there is nothing else going on...and you can freely pick whatever you want to do (within reason - no murdering people or flying around on jet packs lol). After you come to this realization, please do tell me what it is (if you feel like you can share it).
If you feel that you can't share it, I highly advise for you to start changing your life to accommodate that. Think about this for a minute...pretend you are in law school, and you hate it. Pretend your real passion is cooking....but you feel there isn't any money in that, or you feel that you won't be a good enough success, or you don't want to go to school for it. You need to immerse yourself in what you LOVE. Forget the laws school, forget every aspect of your life that is dragging you down. I am enabling you to become liberated from the chains of modern life which restrict us and prevent us from doing what we truly want to do that makes us happy, all for fear of not making enough money, or from fear of not being successful. If there's one thing I've learned in my years...it's that success and money ALWAYS come with something you truly love, are passionate about, and dedicate yourself to....no matter how silly or different it might be.
I IMPLORE you to please sit down and think about what really makes you happy....not like just a little happy...I mean deep down inside happy...content...proud of yourself, and so forth.
Secondly, as for women...there are two sides to your issues...first of all...there will never be just TWO women who you are interested in...not a chance. There will be thousands of women that you will at some point meet or come in contact with that you would genuinely like to cultivate a relationship with IF you allowed yourself the time and opportunity to do so. Sometimes you have to LET GO of what "was" and move onto something that "will be."
the other point about those women....so what if these two different girls moved 1-2 hours away....if you REALLY cared enough for either of them...you would drive yourself down there and spend some time with them. After all what is 1-2 hours down and another 1-2 hours back if it makes you happy? If you tell me that the 1-2 hour drive in each direction doesn't make you happy...then you genuinely don't care about either of them...and I mean that.
When you meet a woman that you absolutely fall for, you are going to move mountains to be able to see her...you will do pretty much anything. It's a weird feeling and it overtakes you...the next step in that puzzle is deciding whether or not she deserves it or not...but that's a different issue.
Please read and take in all that I have said, and take the time to realize what genuinely makes you happy...and really soul search before replying back. If it helps, meditate first....dark silent room, sitting or laying in a position of comfort, eyes closed, focus on NOTHING but your breathing....do this for as long as it takes for you to be at peace....and then ask yourself the question(s)
I feel a stable and healthy relationship will help me substantially, but I don't know where to start and what to think anymore.
I have tried to make me think what really makes me happy, and I've come to the conclusion that hardly anything does anymore, and I realize it which sucks even more.
I am aware that I have a lot of good things going for me and not a worry in the world, yet I am stuck here wondering every night why the hell do I have to get up in the morning to repeat the same schedule, same patterns, same food, same end result. My exercise and diet are fine, I just don't feel healthy either, and it may be due to just the mental health aspect that could be dragging me down.
I will try and read a good book tonight and meditate after when I am a little less stressed and a little more tired and get back to you, but I also came to the conclusion that I really want a nice car and feel that could also make me happy.
Nothing special, maybe in the 25-40,000 range brand new. But even that will just be a short run thing, since money can't really buy happiness and materialistic thoughts can only get you so far in life...