Quote (MrBobMarley @ Feb 23 2015 09:34pm)
Just logged in to chime in on this brother. Heard from the guys what happened, sucks dick. Really sorry to hear man. But you just gotta move on, learn from it and grow.
We legit just went over a case regarding this. The girl in good faith believed this guy to be the dad, even though she did not know for certain. Odd shit, courts are usually in favor of the girl. But the girl reasonably relied on the guys promise to pay child support and they dated, and when he found out the kid was not his, the court still forced him to pay child support.
Saw a few people on BB post about that, only read a couple pages.
The courts reasoning for this has a couple of factors.
1. (public policy) They ultimately want someone to be paying child support, here it seems likely that she may know who the father is, so it's not like no one will be paying.
2. The wife in the case, reasonably relied on the promise to pay child support. Due to that, there was a contract between the husband and wife. Even though it was based on a false fact. (she in good faith believed he was the father). Did she know you weren't? If you can get that fact out, then that would pretty much close the issue.
While the 1st doesn't apply to your situation (you are gonna want to actually know for certain who the dad is), the 2nd might. While she says she doesn't even want your money, that is now man. Think of it, shit just came crashing down, she isn't wanna increase the hate for her right now. But think a year down the line, she might have a change of heart and want the money. The statute of limitations is at least a year, so she has time to decide if she wants it or not. I'm sure your lawyer knows all this, but might be worth to bring it up.
anyways man, best of luck.
PS: make sure your lawyer isn't a POS and is doing his work. Where did you find him and have you done any research? You're gonna want to get a lawyer or a firm that specializes in this type of work (family law/divorce)
hi bob, i missed u, how r u