Quote (Lancet_Jade @ Aug 20 2014 07:31am)
Oh baby
Hey I'm going to be living in AZ very soon
Yea man there was a few reasons I broke up with her.
1) I'm not ready to settle down, and she is. She is constantly bringing up having kids, getting married etc... I guess I was just not ready.
2) She kept talking about dropping her schooling and just following me around in the military and waiting to be a stay at home mom as a career... I voiced my opinion (saying how it's really hard to survive on one paycheck etc) and she said I'm not supportive enough (which is true but I either lie to her about how I feel regarding the issue or tell the truth).
3) Idk if we would have lasted another 2 1/2 years of long distance...
Oh well, I'm trying to round up all the stuff that reminds me of her and throw it away. Out of sight, out of mind.
Where at? haha
That is a lot of stuff that is conflicting and makes things very difficult. I don't know if I believe it, but as I have been told in the past - if it is meant to be, it will be.
Good idea!
Sorry if I'm hijacking your thread. I didn't want to make one of my own, but seeing as we are in a somewhat similar situation, the anonymity and ability to get it out is kind of nice.
Quote (Balla @ Aug 20 2014 08:22am)
Wow dude Jesus, fuck her. How vile and spiteful
You made the right choice m9
I feel for you bc I know that depressed feeling you're speaking of.. And after 3 months too?
As for her changing, I've seen that before, even from others, when the girl is emotionally "damaged" per se. Women are fucking crazy.
I just have to get around it again. It is a shitty as fuck feeling, that's for sure. I was pretty much good to go until this came back around - before Saturday, I was under the assumption that I wouldn't hear from her again, and if I did, it would be under better circumstances (as the last time we spoke, it was on good terms). But fuck, craziness is right.
Quote (prednam @ Aug 20 2014 01:11pm)
wow, that was just absurdly inconsiderate and rude of her. I don't recommend bitterness but I suggest you to use that as a sort of confirmation for your choice to leave her. There is no excuse for what she did and people should have enough control and social manners not to do that.
I'd say it was latent, and I believe a spiteful outburst similar to this would've happened in another context given enough time passes, but then again I tend to be a little more pessimistic with people.
I can't do the bitterness thing. A few of my friends have been telling me to focus on the bad things about her, but my brain doesn't work that way. It just bothers me so much because I know that a lot of it came from my own decisions and actions that pushed her to a place that she emotionally hasn't been in before (I have been in her role before as my first gf, also of 3 years, did the same thing to me - I went a little unhinged at the time). I just hate it because everything that I am unhappy about originally came down to things that were under my own control. This time I did tell her not to contact me again unless she has learned to be more of an adult and less of a kid playing head games. So, if she decides to fuck with my head again, I have pictures and videos on one of my other computers, and messages on my phone, that I'm sure she wouldn't like to go public. I also got along fairly well with her family, and I'm sure she wouldn't like them to see how she is acting, especially as her dad is paying for her living expenses (I don't want to stoop to that level, but if it comes to it, I will).
Quote (tommyd323 @ Aug 20 2014 01:53pm)
She wasn't the one or she would never do that and would have wanted you back when you ended things.
She did want me back when I ended it. But for 2 or 3 weeks, I didn't want anything to do with it. I was working morning to night at the time as I was helping to prepare to host the AZ High School State Track Championships and JUCO Track and Field National Championships - when the work stopped and I realized what I did, it was too late to fix it. It hit me the hardest when we both had to go finish cleaning out our apartment and sign the move out agreement.