By the time your mother dies, we're very likely to be living in an extremely socialist society, anyway. I don't think that anyone will have to worry about being homeless or alone at the rate we're favoring automation.

We're all most likely to be taken care of by the government, or will have easy access to other people in a similar situation who could use roommates. 70% of Americans admit that they have no plans to retire, and couldn't, even if they tried. So either everyone ends up homeless, or the problem sorts itself out somehow.

My dad is schizophrenic. He can be a handful at times but he's good people.

we brought my brother to a psychiatrist once when he got bad, but he lied to her so he didn't get a diagnosis. so i'm not sure what he has.

- hears voices in his head and he talks back to them, which freaks my mom out.
- paranoia which makes him think nobody will hire him, so he doesn't want to apply anywhere. this is beyond normal laziness
- can't distinguish between real life and day dreams
- problems with authority
- delusions of grandeur. constantly tells us how he's gonna be a great millionaire entrepreneur and how easy it is to get rich from investing
- can't save money. he has some weird impulse where he can't stop spending money. i remember one day he went to the ATM and overdrafted to get 20$ and was hit by a 30$ overdraft fee. then the same day he repeated it 2-3 times.
- very secretive and won't give straight answers
- hot anger. one of these days he's going to beat mom when she yells at him.

dad forced him to apply to our local grocery store for a job, and he got it maybe 8 years ago or so. it started off ok, but over the years things got worse. his boss would keep cutting his hours claiming there weren't enough hours to go around, but then they'd hire new people to do the same job. i asked him what happened and he told me management is against him and determined to ruin his life. then he'd go on about how he'd make a better manager than all of them because he knows how to run a business.

one day he told me he was in a relationship with a pharmacist at the grocery store, and he was waiting to improve his job. he had plans to become a manager at another store within 1-2 weeks and as soon as he got the job he was gonna propose to her then get married. i'm 100% sure they weren't in a relationship. i suspect she was just being nice to him and somehow his mind thought they were in a relationship. the job didn't come through, so he quit his job anyway. this was maybe 3 years ago and he didn't get a job since then. just lives with mom. we finally went to the psychiatrist when he refused to stay in the house because ghosts were haunting him. really freaked mom out.

he's 29-30 now and living with mom. i dont think he'll ever get a job as long as mom supports him. and i dont think mom will ever stop supporting him. 3-4 times she's kicked him out of the house when she got angry, but a day later she begs him to come back home. i dont know what will happen to him once mom dies. i've been trying to get him into a stable job making 30k/year, but he refuses to apply. i keep telling him to be a security guard since they're paid to just watch movies, but it's "beneath him"

This post was edited by carteblanche on Oct 22 2016 09:02pm

Hmm, i read everything, and yeah you gotta be straight with him... after ur mom passes, he's going to end up homeless, you need to tell him that, so he gets a career... I'm in the same situation pretty much, although i'm trying to improve my life to get a career.

he's been homeless several times, but it doesn't really deter him. probably because mom keeps helping him out. when his apt kicked him out, he called me. i asked what he wanted me to do and he just said "i don't know." i let him stay with me for 3 weeks until he finds a job, then stay longer to save money if he wants. he made 0 progress, just gamed on his phone. he doesn't really have much concept for the future.

you still learning programming? i haven't seen any recent threads. how's that going?

This post was edited by carteblanche on Oct 22 2016 09:26pm

That does not sound good, i hope he gets better :/

Umm, I"d like to get back into Java, but i'm kinda swamped with other things for a while, so taking a break..... It's been so long, i'll probably just start from scratch when i get back into it, thanks for asking though

When you go looking for sad stories you will find many. It sounds that his family has been very encouraging and supportive to him. It will ultimately be up to your brother to decide the path of his life.

I always wish good luck upon people when I hear these stories... Many times the stories finish sad, but not always.

Good luck.

i have borderline and schizotypal

trying to get disability

basically hate everyone

I work with kids who have been diagnosed with early schiz.
its really hard to diagnose a young child with it though so its just a guide line at this point in their lives.

really hard to watch, but yeah i suggest medication that professionals recommend to live as normal of a life as possible for you.