I was talking to my mother about speaking publicly and in class and stuff. Then I said that I sometimes doubt speaking my mind because there's many people in the class. Then she said I need to practice more and said that I have no friends Q.Q now that I think about it, I don't go out much which I thought I did

How would I get new friends? I could try approaching people but I'm not sure how to work on people that I do not know outside of class or work.

Ask them if they use jsp, if they dont know jsp, move on

hang out with some cool co-workers after work and get to know their friends!

lol it's kind of a FB way of meeting friends though and their is nothing wrong with that!

if you're just trying to go out and meet new people that are different from who you normally hang out with; you should try group activities that you're into!

example: clubs, church, and all the other stuff that falls in between!

don't go out looking for friends just so you can feel better about yourself. that's poor character.

This post was edited by rawwwrr on May 10 2016 01:37am

Yeah co-workers will be a bit difficult cuz of school + stupid non-fixed schedules

but I'll try to visit things that I like, gonna write some down for a couple days, thanks!



I'm doing this to get better at speaking and develop new ways I guess? And if its fun and it makes me feel better that would be a plus, no?

Man da fuck up beetch and project ur voice

I get nervous and it feels funny alright O.o It's like my brain just blanks the heck out sometimes

fear of speaking your mind? mom said you have no friends and now you think you're somehow supposed to have friends because an outside authority said you must have them? sounds needy to me lol. you're probably too insecure about your own self image to be engaging in any meaningful relationships with new people right now.

looking for friends won't fix these things and will only help to mask the underlying issues which will inevitably breed more problems in your future relationships. i suggest you stop giving a fuck about what other people think. start doing what you want right now, and you will realize you don't need to be anything. find confidence in what you want, and not what you or anyone else thinks you need. the hole you think needs to be filled is just something other people are projecting on you through their own insecurities. the right people will gravitate to you once you've understood this.

anyways, i don't claim to know your background well enough. these are just my assumptions based on your first post. you might be overall well adjusted for all i know. it's just this kind of thinking that bothers me.

peace.

This post was edited by rawwwrr on May 10 2016 02:12am

dissoaciatives helps with shyness and low self esteem

Thanks for your feedback, I think I know where you're coming from. I could actually use a few words of what you said and will start focusing more on confidence.



thanks but I try to stay away from drugs, too expensive to afford to use them consistently