Quote (NitemareBear @ Jul 7 2016 05:22pm)
Hey bud, just a few things:
1) it's his kid, not yours. If he wants to be a part of that kid's life then kudos to him and he should be allowed to as long as he's level-headed, isn't abusive, etc. Kids definitely come first and that's something the 2 of them share, he's always going to be a part of her life because of the kid they had together.
now that being said, there's a very fine line between letting him seeing the kid, and her wanting to see him. This honestly sounds like she's fooling around with him. I don't know you, or them, but from an outside perspective from someone who just went thru something very similar, she's probably cheating on you with him.
I mean hell, they have history together and the dude is over there at 11pm to "see the kid"? the kid should be in bed at that time.
2) If I were you I would cut your losses and just get out. Even if she isn't sleeping with him, she is making you suspect it (for a reason) and doesn't care how it makes you feel. She doesn't respect you and it's going to hurt more if you stay with her and she keeps doing this stuff.
I just got out of a 3.5 year relationship to a girl I was engaged to. We moved to a new city together (after living together for 2 years) and she moved ahead of me by 3 weeks so we didn't have to commute for our jobs until I found work there.
The day I moved over there I found out she had been spending the past 3 weeks with another dude, drinking over at his house, and it was causing serious problems in our relationship. We talked about it, she decided we better sleep in seperate rooms, and then she went over to his place, got drunk, and stayed the night at his place.
So I left her, and it hurt like hell. But atleast I got out when I did because I was in a really fucking dark place last weekend.
Get out while ya can man, it's not worth it.
Yeah I know its not my actual kid but he didnt want anything to do with it the first 6 months or so after we got together. Hed just do dirty sneaky shit like slash my car tires. The night I took her and the baby to the ER and he was drunk and came in there and hit me, When i tried to leave I literally had all 4 of my cars tires flattened to the ground