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#21
Jun 13 2016 04:04am
Quote (wraps @ Jun 13 2016 10:45am)
it's not the fact that she talks about it that bothers me. well it is and it isn't.

when she talks about it like she does it brings more guys out that want to take advantage of her and it's not right. she is a very young person (a kid) not a ho!

she has very little self respect because she is used to sleeping around with guys to make herself feel better as a person. she doesn't understand that the guys are only doing it to get laid and that they really don't care about her.


Seems like she's using the guys for sex the same way the guys are using her for sex. It's pretty sexist of you to assume girls can't enjoy one night stands the same way guys can.
Also, how do you know that her self-esteem issues come from sleeping around?

This post was edited by Svartermetalisk on Jun 13 2016 04:04am
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Jun 13 2016 04:06am
Quote (CPK001 @ Jun 13 2016 11:01am)
Unfortunately girls do not think logically. They are not into guys who treat them with respect or love them. Girls actually go the opposite way and go for the asses in life.

I'm going to say it directly, she is screwed and there is nothing that can be done. There is biological evidence as to how a woman's brain works and no mere words can break the programming.

If it were simple, I'd have a girlfriend by now.


What a load of bullshit.


Wraps, you simply have to let people live their lives. Sex is not a bad thing. Try to make sure that she's doing this responsibly (with protection, etc) and that she's always on the same page with her partner concerning their expectations. She shouldn't get led on and she shouldn't lead others on.

Other than that? Let it happen. Either she'll grow out of it or she'll stay this way. If this makes her happy then nothing is wrong.
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#23
Jun 13 2016 04:23am
Bro ur a pedobear
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#24
Jun 13 2016 04:24am
You might be able to help her internally! :huh:
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#25
Jun 13 2016 04:39am
she needs some time to make her own mistakes

she's young enough that her brain is not capable of putting everything together and changing behavior yet
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Jun 13 2016 07:45pm
Quote (Svartermetalisk @ Jun 13 2016 07:36pm)
The next time I see a woman I'm gonna slap her in the face and tell her she is reminiscent of a pig. If your theory holds true I should get laid.


When it does work tell Firaga so he can finally take the training wheels off his tricycle.
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#27
Jun 13 2016 07:58pm
Just be there for her and keep letting her know that she's a wonderful human being who has value and that she deserves to be treated well. There are a million messages telling her the exact opposite, so it'll take a long time (if ever) for her to believe you. But it's still worth the effort in any case.
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#28
Jul 19 2016 02:39am
Quote (Kath @ Jun 13 2016 05:02am)
What if you set her up with a guy that WILL treat her with respect. And date her. And court her.

So she has a comparison of what guys should do. And not do.


that's actually a really good idea but i don't know any guys in her age group like that. i will keep my eyes and ears open for someone like that though! :)

Quote (Svartermetalisk @ Jun 13 2016 05:04am)
Seems like she's using the guys for sex the same way the guys are using her for sex. It's pretty sexist of you to assume girls can't enjoy one night stands the same way guys can.
Also, how do you know that her self-esteem issues come from sleeping around?


well i didn't mean that her self esteem issues came from sleeping around but her sleeping around is a result from her self esteem issues. sure it's okay for grown people to sleep around but this girl is only 18 years old..like just graduated from High School this summer.

put yourself in her Dad's shoes! if you were her Dad would you want her having sex with everyone? :huh:





Quote (AiNedeSpelCzech @ Jun 13 2016 08:58pm)
Just be there for her and keep letting her know that she's a wonderful human being who has value and that she deserves to be treated well. There are a million messages telling her the exact opposite, so it'll take a long time (if ever) for her to believe you. But it's still worth the effort in any case.


thank you Dusty! :)

i actually did this and she is a lot more open with me than she was before! :D

we talk all the time now about our favorite shows, what's next in life, goals etc.. i get to throw my Dad-isms in there and i think they're sinking in a bit! i'm probably not much of an influence but even if i can be a tiny little influence that could change her life for the better it's GG as heck! B)
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#29
Jul 19 2016 02:48am
Sorry to hear that wraps hope you can talk to her a small amount at a time and try making her see the bigger picture and that she doesn't have to go that way about it, but I hope you are doing well
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#30
Jul 19 2016 02:54am
wraps you just wanna get in her pants too you dirty dawg
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