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Alright, you best brace yourselves for some mad wisdom. What I'm about to drop is the key to this not giving a fuck cause we've got going here.
So first of all, I don't know you. You might be afraid of taking action, perhaps you have a lot of anxiety about the future, maybe you dwell too much in the past, or maybe you just find yourself thinking way too much about what the "right" thing to do is in social situations.
No. Fuck that. Be proactive in whatever you do, do not, under any circumstance, fall "victim" to being reactive. This means that you should understand that you are on your own path in life. Take a look at where you are right now. Everything you have done in your life, all of your accrued actions and decisions have brought you here. Knowing this, you should also realize that you are in complete control of your life at any moment.
Do not study what others do, do not pay copious fucks worth of attention to how you are perceived, do not worry or stress yourself about how taking action may negatively affect your self image or ruin anything good you've got going for yourself. You need to become completely honest and live a life of truth. Once you accomplish this, then, and only then, will you have successfully stopped giving a fuck.
What exactly is giving a fuck? It's a very subjective concept now isn't it... Not giving a fuck does not mean that you should be blatantly ignorant about other people and other things. Not giving a fuck doesn't mean you literally have to stop caring for other things and just "not give a fuck." Furthermore, the paradox of this whole idea is that you shouldn't strive to not give a fuck in the first place.
Let me paint you a picture: imagine an obviously insecure person who tries not to give a fuck. To embrace this new philosophy, he goes around and tells people that he doesn't care about anything. He goes to extreme lengths to build himself up as this character who obviously doesn't give a fuck. What's funny about this is that it's quite clear that he is very concerned with what others think about him, about maintaining this ideal self image he's convinced is what defines him, and in realistically speaking, he's doing the complete opposite of what he's claiming to be.
Do you sort of get it now? From now on, make a conscious effort to do things for you. You are on your own path, fuck everybody else. Now, by "fuck everybody else," I'm not saying just completely discard their thoughts and opinions and assume superiority. But you should be doing things for yourself first. This is what it means to be proactive.
Being proactive means that you do what you want, then you "study" the social situation and how you've affected it. Being reactive means that, suppose you want to say or do something in a social situation, first you would "study" or try to calibrate your course of action with the most perfect or most appropriate thing, and then you say it. No. This is fucking madness. This is called giving a fuck. This is called you reacting to other people. You should be the cause, others should be at the effect. That's how it works.
Now how do you get away with doing this? Isn't this pretty hard, you may ask? I mean, you're basically putting your entire personality on the line. Doesn't that mean that people will disagree with you and shit? You are putting your entire personality on the line, and as a result, you very well may get people that will disagree with you or even dislike you. Just remember that this is a good thing. Remember what Churchill said? "You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something."
So back to the actual doing part, how does one get away with doing this? Well, first of all, realize that you are enough. YOU ARE ENOUGH. Everything you do, everything you say is awesome and worth hearing and paying attention to simply because it comes from you. Why not feel entitled? Why not feel confident? Why not feel like you belong everywhere, and why not feel like you have control? You don't need SHIT to prove yourself. You don't need an excuse to feel happy, at peace, or to do what you want.
This is called being on your path, being yourself, and not giving a fuck. This is called being proactive, and not being reactive. This is your path, and you need to realize that you have control over your life. If you think something isn't a big deal, treat it that way. Other people will realize that and will understand what you truly think of that. What if they don't like you because of that? Fuck them.
Shift your attention away from focusing on others, and bring it towards you. Aim your focus at doing what you want, saying what you want, and ultimately LIVING. Go 100%. If you do something, don't do it in this wishy-washy pussy way. No, just like an arrow, you are going 100% into your target. Have purpose. Be clear in your actions. Commit to doing things. Commit to taking action.
Now, a lot of people on this subreddit come here because they may not necessarily know how to do so. Hence the howtonotgiveafuck. Change. Change starting now. Understand that this is who you are now. Strengthen that "taking action" muscle. You want to go over and talk to that cute cashier? Do it. Fuck you and fuck your bullshit emotions. Know that the reason why you're so emotionally conflicted is because they are still calibrated to the old you. The old you would not have talked to that cashier. This is called breaking out of your comfort zone. Comfort. Yes. Break out of that shit.
It may very well be the worst thing you could entertain in life. Just to prefer comfort over taking action. Stagnation is a bad thing, when you stagnate willingly, you are reacting. Be at the cause, be proactive, take action. So you go up to that cashier and you start talking, none of this bullshit rationalization as to what can go wrong. Why does anything have to go wrong? Why not think about what can go right? Why sabotage yourself? Don't just avoid the bad, strive for the good.
Taking action is one thing, but not living is another thing. How to not give a fuck is actually a very spiritual practice. Many ideas can be found in Taoism and Buddhism as well as any other practice that condones living presently. When you live in the present, you are alive. You need to realize there is no other time than the present. The future and the past only deceive you. Illusions, made by your mind. Stop identifying with your mind, quit thinking so much, and just start doing. Be a person of action.
You see, the past gives you a false sense of identity. The future, on the other hand, gives you a false sense of salvation. You are here right now. You are not living in the past, you are not living in the future, you are living right now. So start acting like it. Take action.
How can you make the present more enjoyable? Learn to self entertain. Learn to generate your own good emotions. Learn to shape your path into the most enjoyable journey possible. Lower your criteria of what it means for shit to be funny, or amusing, entertaining. Be curious. Question the simplest things. Think of your life, think of you going through your days as watching a funny person on TV. For those that have seen Californication, often times, Hank or Charlie could be in a really shitty situation yet we still laugh. Because it's funny, yet to them, they could be freaking out over getting caught masturbating or having sex with the wrong person. Look at your life that way too. Learn to laugh at yourself.
Ultimately, just realize that you are on your own path. Do what you want to do, say what you want. If something bad happens because of it, so be it. You will realize that the more you do this, you'll literally become numb to others' reactions. You will get into a state acting on your own intentions and that will be more than enough that anyone else can give you. View this as a skill. You need to practice this regularly. And with time, you will grow. The more shit you experience being yourself and doing what you want, the more you will be aligned with your intentions and acting on it in real life.
Don't give a fuck.
You are on your own path, fuck everybody else.
some guy on reddit
This post was edited by rawwwrr on May 8 2016 10:44pm