that way people can actually debate each other and say things w/o a mod jumping in to suspend someone for voicing there opinion and let the jspers work it out on there own

How would that even be possible to pull off?

People usually do get suspended (but only for like 15 minutes) for minor flames
sometimes major ones get 15 mins too which isn't fair

Yes.

Can't tell you how many times I got suspended for jokingly flaming my friends when they're doing the same and someone actually assumes we're arguing with each other and reports it for no reason.

If you are flamed, report it. flame in return and expect action taken against you.