so i preordered the evil within but i see no way to set it to download and i know the preloads are open? anyone know why i cant could it be because im not the primary ps4 since i gameshare?

yes thats probably the reason, you should have the ps4 activated as primary ps4 on your account

looks like I have to wait then

That's not the reason. I've preloaded games while not being the primary console on the account.

hmm then how do yu do it or do i not see the preloaded game?

You should see it like any other game in the XMB. Go to the game in the store and click on it as if you're going to download it.

Also make sure your settings are set up to allow preloading. Don't know where in the menu it is as I'm not sitting at my ps4 right now

i have all that set i go to the game it says auto download settings

fixed it the issue i think is they hadnt opened the preload yet i can now dl it

Nice