Yeah you could be right. I never thought about it that way. I wish I was able to remember to think more like that in the moment like you do. It definitely takes a lot of practice and changing the way we think to get there though
yeah, especially once you get older thoughts and habits tend to get more locked in often
taking a big break from jsp and confrontations online helped, also therapy and not being on drugs or caffeine too much
or maybe i had that view then too but was just so affected often because i didnt want people to act like that and it was pretty much the only venue i had for social connection so it can become sadomasochistic in a way