Quote (DiamondHands @ Jul 11 2022 11:02am)
What bothers me is feeling connection with someone but moving on because you don't think it's a 100% match (eg too different outgoing levels, or opposite of music tastes can be bothersome if both parties find music really important) and there should be someone better out there. Yeah, there probably is, but there's no guarantee they are available, interested in you, the connection would be there. Why give up without validating that you can actually work things out with the compromises feeling like opportunities not sacrifices?
Connection shouldn't be taken for granted. And it should get validated.
People wanting to kiss on the first date, sleep on the second, introduce to friends on the 3rd just to dump in a month because attraction has been mistaken for a connection scars both parties. If its love, it won't disappear only because you are taking it slow.
I know this is a slightly messy thought process, but one ends up talking with various people when trying to date. And once you dig deeper, there's often a lot of dirt, resentment and sadness, and it really bothers me. I wish people where kinder when it comes to relationships. And kinder in general.
You care way too much. Always remember, they want your resources--they don't want you.