This article is addressed to women. I have been reading incel literature on the internet, and one thing really stood out to me: men are complaining that women are attracted to all kinds of unsavory men, such as bullies and narcissistic men. Even literal criminals and murderers. I don't know if this is true, however, my own observations are that a lot of women do seem to make really poor choices in a mate. Quite a few of them seem to genuinely think NBA players, rock stars, hedge fund managers, the famous, the powerful...etc are top choices for them. About this I really lament. These people have a patina to them, they look good, and most women are fooled by it. They don't know that these people don't build a great country, they don't maintain our societies, they don't cure diseases nor do they help the helpless. I want to tell women of our world that, by our choice in a man, we decide what our society will look like. If we all mate with convicts, then the next generation will be full of thieves, rapists and murderers. If we all mate with football and basketball stars, which is not as bad as the previous example, the next generation will simply be good at sports, which in and of itself isn't something worthwhile. Athletes don't build a peaceful, prosperous, just society. So what, a woman might ask me, makes a truly good mate? I am glad you asked. The answer is, a man of virtue. The word virtue sounds a bit archaic, so I will use a different term: a man of virtue is essentially a man who has admirable personal qualities. Think salt of the earth, the men who really make the country what it is today.
I will give a list of admirable qualities in a man, that women should value:
compassion
kindness
moral integrity
honesty
considerate of other people's feelings
spiritual; wants more than just money out of life
does not think about how to harm or swindle or cheat or otherwise mistreat a fellow human
believes in something
honor
So basically, things that sound boring at first, but are actually incredibly important when we think about it. Contemporary society might try and tell you that these ideas are outdated, that they are not "cool" or "hip" anymore. Don't listen to it. A man who checks quite a few of this list (doesn't have to check all of them) is not only someone who will build and maintain society, he will also treat you very well. Your marriage to this man will be happy and blissful. Furthermore, he will love your children as well as be a role model to them.
Of course, the qualities I listed aren't the only ones that matter. There are quite a few others that are also very important but are not absolutely necessary:
conviction (this means having strong beliefs)
spartan courage
contemplative
crusading
perseverance in the face of adversity
humility
And many others, depending on what you personally value.
You will find that I did not list intelligence and reason on either list. It's not because I don't think these are important. But rather, l left them out because I feel that there is an overemphasis on them in our contemporary society. And the qualities I mentioned have fallen by the way side. Also, I left out charisma, which some people are fascinated by, but it is actually a pretty useless quality in my book. A prosperous society is not built on the backs of charismatic people. In fact, the more plain and ordinary a man is, paradoxically, the more he builds and contributes to society.
I also left out good looks, for similar reasons. Of course, not saying it doesn't play a role in attraction, just that it's not so important that it eclipses these essential qualities. As long as a man isn't positively ugly to you, it's good enough.
Lastly, a few words about some stuff I read on the incel wiki. I have seen the pictures of supposedly very ugly incels like eggman and blackopssaint or whatever his name is. These men don't look that ugly to me. I feel that they are just very average looking men. True, they are no Brad Pitt. But they aren't demonically
ugly either. If there is a man in real life who looks like eggman, but he is truly courageous, honorable, and he has strong principles that he is willing to die for, then he is the ideal man to me and I will totally overlook his less than perfect physical looks. Nothing is sexier than a man who has virtues.