so i installed the crap and got it all set up. When i load ghost.exe it says logon success but when i try to go onto bnet it says my reign of chaos cd key is being used by Ghost. How i get through that?

afaik bots need their own cd keys.

there's a setting somewhere that lets you join your bots games via lan/ip

idk but i did everything that was in the setup but it just wont let me go on bnet like the other kids can on youtube.

Are you using two cd key sets?
One different set for the bot, and one different set for yourself. If so: enable bot_admingamecreate or something like that? It will host a game on your LAN and then use you to go onto battle net as the bot. Makes sense when you do it.
If its the same or different computer on your network and you have troubles, make sure to get loopback adapter and set that up.

If you need help, go to their website.
I found the answers to those questions because I had the problems as well.