grief adds flat dmg to the base of your weapon whereas fury adds percentage dmg (ed). for smiters (as you mentioned) this is an easy choice, since ed is not taken into account. for other builds, be it zealot/charger/frenzy/ww/fury/..., the total dmg of your weapon is important. if we consider a well-rolled grief with +390 dmg, this beats a fury weapon in terms of raw dmg unless the avg base dmg of the weapon is higher than 186.5; sadly, no such weapon exists though.
the rest of the stats may be compared in a rough way: both offer -25etd, identical. fury offers a bit higher ds: this might however be misleading because ds will be already high for most melee chars using some common items (guillaumes, gore riders, highlords). for barb it is even less valuable because of mastery crit. both offer 40 (or up to 40) ias, identical. fury gives ow, which grief does not offer: desired mod in some pvp match-ups, but for pvm you only need a low percentage because you hit your opponent non-stop, so gore riders/dracs are sufficient here. both offer itd, identical. grief on the other hand offers laek and maek, which also enhances survivability in pvm. fury gives +5 to frenzy, but the dmg of frenzy scales very slowly (5ed per level), so this does not contribute that much dmg

tldr (although that's a contradiction with asking the question in the first place, isn't it): grief is better in almost all situations because it has wayyyyyyy more dmg and the other mods are about equal. the only build I saw fury being used is a most basic hybrid assa with chaos/fury claw combo (only bc grief can't be made in claws)

A wise man once said "Use Grief Pb then u owne a little"

grief is alot better then fury, fury should no longer be used for any build.