Divorce...... he's posted a few times about it :\
Jay, feel free to come to Mich. We're celebrating on the 22nd. 25th is open and I can buy you a sexy tutu or something.

This post was edited by dxlightning on Dec 16 2013 11:07pm

For sure, that happens, especially when you have family that's going threw the tough parts in life, kinda drags things down




This will be our first Christmas with out my grandma, thanks giving was rough, that lady was tough as nails and loved every one and helped whoever she could, I know in a better person for knowing her.

This post was edited by KoJ on Dec 16 2013 11:07pm

I hear divorced people get along well at Christmas.

Wouldn't want to comment. His post makes it seem like that's not true.

Probably. They do call me an optimist though

What a badass Buffalo.

She's my ex-ex-ex lol. We are actually great friends now but itll never be like "that" again. MUCH better friends than lovers. If I could've gotten time off I would've gone though. I get along great with her family.



I think you'd pay me not to wear a tutu haha. Thanks for the kind but likely not happening offer though. Christmas, for whatever reason, has always brought me down a little bit. To be honest I havent been "happy" at this time of year for a few years now, since my divorce. Hate that my kids come from a broken family. I'm not totally alone though. My 39 year old FAS step sister lives with me. I'm her "share home provider" because i'm the last family she has in this town, she doesnt live well with strangers and, well, I love her. She always took such good care of my mom when she was alive. Kind of feel like I owe her a good life. I will have my youngest son for a couple hours Christmas day (The product of my actual marriage) and he and my sister will open the presents I bought them but after that I'm shipping my step sister off to my brother in laws and just taking it easy. truthfully there's a few single people I work with in similar boats as me and I plan on having some drinks and watching cheesy old movies with them.




My ex wife and I do not get along, no matter how hard i've tried to form some semblance of a friendship. Some people just arent wired to maintain even a base friendship after a separation I guess. My mom always included my dad in everything growing up and I'm kind of made in the same mould. Life's too short to harbor longterm resentment IMO. As most of you know i'm very quick to flare up but i'm also very quick to let bygones be bygones and move on too.


Anyways, sorry for making this thread into a emo jay bummerfest. Just felt sad today. Actually sat in my car before work and shed a few tears. How manly is that eh?

I'm with ya bud. Everythings been really fucking weird without dad around. Christmas is going to be... different to say the least


It's good to talk about this stuff and get it off your chest, you know we're all here to listen.

This post was edited by tim226 on Dec 16 2013 11:41pm

I feel ya KoJ. I lost my grandmother and mother within 2 years of each other. 2 of the 3 most important and influential women in my life. (My daughter being the third).

I visit my mom and grandma every birthday, christmas and thanksgiving and talk to them. Always feel better and worse when leaving. There sure is something to be said for TRUE unconditional love isnt there?

Hold onto the great memories and let her characteristics inspire you to be the best you you can be. That's doing her memory proud.

/e



Thanks Tim. I'm sorry for the pain of not having your dad around anymore too. From what I can tell he did REAL good with you though. I'm sure he was very proud of the mature and good young man you've seem to grown into man.

This post was edited by jaykardux on Dec 16 2013 11:44pm

Christmas isn't necessarily the happiest time of the year. My kid and her mom are going to visit her (kid) grandmother who's only seen her a few times (Not the reason they're going but I'm not prepared to talk about the real reason) and won't be back till the 26th or 27th. Things in life you just have to deal with and not let them bother you. Easier said then done for most I suppose but I have ice in my veins so easy for me to block something out. Seems like everyone has something negative going on during Christmas, never used to notice it but I do now.

Just have to think of the holidays as nothing different than any other time of the year.

This post was edited by Caedus on Dec 16 2013 11:44pm