Necrophagist - Diminished to be

playing along to songs gives you the basic skills of hearing and time

not actual playing skill

youtube some beginner drum tutorials

Actually i got almost all my skill from listening with songs ehe

You're probably going to want to get a teacher. Not for long, but for maybe the first months. As you get the hang of simple beats, in time you will naturally improve.
I hate to say it, but theres no secret to learning how to play a set. Practice, practice, practice

guitar or drums?

idk about guitar but i know that your not going to learn

paradiddles, triplets, 6stroke rolls, 5 stroke rolls etc

from playing along to songs

Start with Dream Theater. It works.

no, it really doesn't

Mike Portnoy is a terrible role model

yeh id hate to be as good as him

nothing else matters - metallice
boulevard of broken dreams - green day
californication - red hot chili peppers

that's got nothing to do with it