Quote (OviMf @ Jul 30 2023 07:02am)
My girlfriend and I are currently in the process of building a house.
We are together since 11 years and we bought a property and house which is now being built.
Thigns changed the last years, I have a fulltime job and she too which is totally fine but she didn't finish her university and is only getting paid 80% of what a real teacher would get because she didn't make the finals.
Now she is planning wedding, has no complete degree but a job which is fine, and we are building a house.
I told her we should finish the house first, use the money we have left over for the wedding if money is even left over and honestly she should focus on her career and house instead of this stupid wedding.
She cried lol.
What now? I think building house, her career not being 100% done, the wedding is just way too much. And honestly, I'd rather go on a vacation to South East Asia than burn 10k € on a wedding day.
I don't see why she can't prioritise important things first (Career and House) and then wedding perhaps vacation.
But she really wants this wedding. I don't understand.
What you need to understand is that she is selfish and lazy. She doesn't want to do what needs to be done--finish her degree and finish the house first--and thinks you should just make up the difference. If you get married to her, she will only get worse with her behavior and probably just quit working all together...making you work even more to make up the difference. You need to cut ties with her, as she will be nothing but an anchor around your neck.
I am sorry to be so blunt, but I have seen this happen to so many men in the past...and if I can save just one man from the soul crushing you will be put through in the future, it is worth you not wanting to hear it. And always remember--if she is disrespecting you now, it will only get worse in the future.
Good luck and take care...