So, I just got another call.......
turns out that the fact shje's "not doing good" is nothing but an inner ear infection.
So, I'm tempted to drive the 12 hrs and go up there and start kicking some ass.
Now that I've completely missed supper, drove everybody crazy and smoked every cigarette I have I'm going to the store for cigarettes and food.
Thanks to everyone for their concern and sorry about the false alarm.