Quote (Tamale012 @ Mon, Jun 8 2009, 12:47pm)
Ok before i write this i would really like for you, if your going to post, to post your age. If not its fine i guess
But i was wondering, after you read this story, what you would do if you were my parent
First off a background on my parents and I
I really enjoy high school, im a junior and my grades are always above a 90, this year all above a 95. Im interested in the stuff i learn and have a lot of friends, some that drink and smoke, and others who dont.
When my mom went to school she used to party and smoke cigarettes and stuff a lot, didnt go to college, got bad grades
My dad on the other hand was a little goody-goody. He would get good grades, never go to parties, study a lot
Now the story
On saturday night, i decided to stay the night at my neighbors house
He is 19, older then me, and my parents know he parties
i told my parents that i was going to go to the movies in the city then come back, pick up his sister, and go midnight bowling
Instead, his friend was having a big party about 10 min away and i wanted to go because it would be the first party i had ever been to and tbh im interested in drinking and smoking ( not cigarettes) because it is fun to me
I checked in throughout the night and at the party there were supposed to be about 160 people and the cops were supposed to come
so at about 140 the cops showed up and we all booked it, i got a ride home to my neighbors house from one of his friends. As we were pulling up my mom pulls out of his driveway, im like fuck.
so she gets out of her car after we are all out and starts screaming at the person driving saying shit like "you son of a bitch who do you think you are taking my son to a party, the cops are on their way" and stuff. He was like ma'am i havent been drinking and she continued to scream so he took off.
After this she took me home and her and my dad started freaking out on me and saying shit like why would you lie to us and why would you get in a car with someone who has been drinking and smoking. First off, why would i tell you the truth because you wouldnt have let me gone and second off he wasnt drinking/smoking (maybe drinking a little but i know he didnt smoke because his gf wouldnt let him).
So they drove back up to my neighbors house and asked his parents for the person who drove me home's last name because i told them i didnt know. His dad was pretty cool, didnt want to tell them but his mom ended up telling them. We went back home and she told me she didnt want me ever seeing my neighbor again
On top of that they grounded me till my birthday (july 24th) with no cell phone, videogames, internet (they blocked internet explorer) or friends. Im not allowed to go anywhere and they said i lost all their trust.
On top of this my mom called the police and got my neighbor charged with serving alcohol to a minor and something else like taking me to the party, even though i went willingly.
Now what i would like to know is what would you do in this situation, being in both mine and my parents shoes. They keep telling me stuff like you will know why we did this when your older and stuff like that but tbh idc if i may be "less experienced" then them right now i know how i will be as a father and if my kid wants to go to a party and gets good grades and does what i ask then he can go as long as he understands that he has to deal with the law if he gets in trouble, not me.
TL;DR version
I got caught at a party by my parents, not the cops. read the other bolded stuff to see how it turned out
I think it's best to stay away from drugs period because the more you use them the worse your days seem without them so it just makes you do them more.. cigs make you relax which help procrastination, weed does the same and makes you lose motivation with things that may be stressing you out like work or school, and alcohol isnt too bad as long as it doesnt get out of hand or in the way of your daily life..
i think in a parents view kids will be kids and everyone goes through a curiosity stage, but what your parents are doing may seem like their over reacting but my guess is that its because youve always been such a good kid your whole life. i recommend you just use what your parents say as suggestions to your own decisions same as like they were your friends..
i also lost my moms trust from being caught with weed a few months ago and i just everything for like 3 weeks also.. but ive gained her trust back slowly since then
This post was edited by Treacherous on Jun 10 2009 10:30pm