I didn't know where to post this, and I didn't want to talk to my friends about it because it makes me seem weak.

I miss my grandfather so bad, he died 15 months ago after getting asbestosis poisoning from working in a ship yard when he came to America.

Just hoping someone out there could put some positive light in this, maybe some religious quotes from the Bible or something, I feel like I'm hitting rock-bottom with Thanksgiving coming up.

Anybody out there know what its like to lose your favorite person ever, and rather suddenly? Usually I'm fine, I became pretty religious since he got sick, I can't even function throughout the day without praying twice (when I wake up and when I go to bed).

I never went through all the steps of mourning / grieving, I just did it on my own. I wasn't BAD growing up, but I smoked a lot of pot, drank a lot, and partied a lot, but that was just high school stuff. I'm 19 now, be 20 very soon, and am a fireman/EMT, I really got on the right track, but I just wish he was here to see it for himself, and I think thats my biggest problem, I just feel guilty that he isn't here to see me ...

I'm his names sake, and just miss speaking Italian with him and all the little things ... if someone could brighten my day up I would really appreciate it, if anyone else out there is going through the same thing, you're not alone, God Bless.


Please don't troll on this thread, I just really am looking for some advice.

it's perfectly normal for a person to mourn over someone you cared

if your friends do look at you "weak," then..you need better friends seriously

just because he is no longer of this world does not mean that he is not watching you proudly and telling God how awesome of a grandson you are from the heavens. We all will have our time with God, some earlier than others. Just know that he is happy and that when you eventually do pass on then your grandfather will be waiting for you with open arms. God bless you man and i hope you still manage to have a fantastic thanksgiving.

my brother passed away 2008 with bone cancer one way i deal with it i go to his grave all most every day. but i know god gives me peace.

You guys are awesome, seriously appreciated, I'm going to his grave tomorrow and that helps me also. I'm really sorry to hear about your brother man...

thank you, ill keep your i my prayers.

means a lot to me, again, thank you

Why does it make you seem weak? What is wrong with feeling weak? Are you worried about what your friends may think about you?

The answer is it doesn't matter what your friends think about you. It matters what God thinks about you.


So you feel guilty that your Grandfather isn't here to see you. Where is that guilt coming from? Who is guilty of what crime?

The answer is there is nothing to be guilty about. Remember that Jesus died for all your sins, he put all your guilt on the cross and put it to death.

You're right, thank you