my "best friend" got my next door neighbor prego. im against abortion but she isn't. i live in rhode island and now that they have to have them look at the sonograms i still don't think thats enough for her to change her mind about having her unborn child.i'm very concerned about her blessed life is going, she has great grades, her family has both original parents, she rarely has to worry about getting by because of her amazing looks. she says that this child will ruin her life if she keeps it. it would bring back soo many harmful memories if she keeps it, she tells me that she was an orphan before and she couldn't let a child be paired up with a stranger. please will any one out there give me some wisdom on what i should think about. praise jesus

im in a dilemma and i really dont want to talk to a hotline

You should pray and show her the 180Movie on changing people's minds on abortion:



I hope she reconsiders her options and thinks about adoption if she doesn't want to keep the child because even if she doesn't want to take care of the child, there are plenty of loving families who would love to have a child/another child but can't because of health or other problems. My oldest cousin can't have any of her own kids because of health reasons and would love to have kids, for example.

Feel free to pm me if you want.

This post was edited by Gold_Llama on Mar 9 2012 02:13am

she said that if the fetus isn't born then she's not killing a life just part of herself and she's ok with that

you're in a dilemna? Sounds like you're the one who got her pregnant.

Pretty sure not even the best argument can convince her otherwise. Just be supportive at all times and dont be judgemental if she decides to get an abortion... its her decision not yours.

The only thing thats having an impact on your life is that you know the person that wants to get an abortion. For X reasons it's there own decision, they might ask advice from others, but it comes down to 1 person to decide.

The only thing you should take from this, is what you have felt about the whole ordeal and what you've learned from it in your own life. Might sound selfish, but it's not, you didn't become friends/neighbours to people around you so that you can decide for them and chose there own paths of life.

You have your own path with life, and this juncture is/might be an important part of it for your own experience. Let it be for now or maybe what the futur holds for you, you lived through something, that will aid you later on if something similar occurs again, in your own life, that impacts you, yourself.

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I wont comment about if I believe it's right or not (abortion), because it's really irrelevant.

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e - And whatever the decision be, be understanding and supportive. But true to yourself while doing so.



Best of luck to you



This post was edited by James84 on Mar 15 2012 05:42pm