First of all I am not married so it's not technically adultery but I feel horrible about it.

Several weeks ago this other guy I work with started texting me in a forward manner. At first I didn't think much of it but as it continued I found myself drawn to him. We decided to hang out one night over at his place while my boyfriend was with his parents. Well one thing led to another and before I knew it we had slept together.

My question is how do I help absolve myself of this guilt? Do I need to tell my boyfriend and end the relationship??

i would end it,

if you dont respect him enough to not cheat on him then why stay with him? if you dont respect him to stay true to him then why would you consider marriage with him, your relationship is going no where might as well end it now and find one that has promise perhaps you will actually respect your next boy friend

would have to agree. you could have stopped it instead of letting it happen. gotta say do the right thing and end it

If you want to stay with your boyfriend then don't end it like these dorks are telling you. If you feel bad about it then lesson learned, don't do it again. If you do feel that you like that one guy you slept with better than your boyfriend then go ahead and stay with him. It's really do whatever you want

You mean it's really "stay unstable and disrespectful" then?

You have to tell your boyfriend for sure and in no way are you to decide what's going to happen. You owe him that. If he decides to give you another chance, know that you broke his trust and that gaining it back will take time. If he decides to end it, it's completely understandable.

This post was edited by CMBurns on Oct 16 2010 05:24am

I agree with this.

No. Every love relationships is based on lies. Yours is pretty good. What you don't know dosen't hurt. If you're not planning on doing it again, then don't tell him. Like no on1 has ever cheated on a partner once!

What's the definition of fidelity?
-Lack of oportunity.

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you dont have to be married to commit adultery, as a matter of fact, adultery is having sex outside of marriage, i'm not sure if you're jus trollin or really have this issue but, i'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you're not
you have to be honest with your bf because i'm sure you'd want the same, if he really loves you he'll stay with you, if he doesn't then you're outta luck buddy, i know it's hard, but that's the way it is, it's gona bite back on your ass one day so might as well get it done now

the fact that you're feeling guilty should tell you somethin, if you love your bf, you care about him and when you care about him, you are honest, love is honesty...

i didnt want to write this out coz i didnt want to offend anyone, but i have to be honest