I accepted Christ as my Savior 5 years ago and up until now i've been living it. I have no doubt whatsoever about my salvation and I am so thankful for it. I didn't really grow up in the church, but I am going to a Christian school right now and i'm preparing for college. I don't go to church, but I lead our chapel every friday morning and am the worship leader, so i'm in a tough position. I can't share this type of thing with others because way too many people look up to me. Over the past 5 months, i've been having sex with my girlfriend of 5 months and i've been feeling guilty, but I just can't stop. She herself is a Christian and said that she's willing to go through the whole relationship without sex, but I just can't find it in myself to do it. I'm almost scared what i'm doing to myself if I don't stop. I know God forgives, but I find it hard to rationalize in my mind that He would still want me even if I am voluntarily sinning against Him, and knowing what i'm doing.

Edit: I don't know if you guys are "once saved always saved people", but I am and have been, and I am in no way using that as an excuse to get away with sin. I'm just almost doubting that I can't lose it if I don't stop.

This post was edited by x]FoRsaKeN[x on Mar 28 2010 03:58pm

I am trying, but it's alot harder than most people think...I am slowly getting better but it's still happening

I've been in a similar situation where my sexual relationship with my girlfriend was hidden from everyone because I also went to a Christian school where people were to hold a certain reputation.

One way that you can combat your urges for sex is to both pray together to God to give you the obedience to not do these things. I think God is using this to test how strong your relationship is with Him and what you will sacrifice to honor him.

Also, right now sex is the center of your relationship with your girlfriend while it 100% needs to be God that is the center. If he truly becomes this then any urge to have sex should be overridden by your relationship with God.

I hope this helped, if you want to talk more then just pm me because I know where you have been. Any other problems are welcomed too

Well you should know that God will forgive all sins. If you truly want to change your ways just use the old wein it down stratedgy. That is where you may have a goal to, at one single point, not give into the temptation and find something else to do for about a month, where you don't have sex at one certain time of the day or week IF this is a routine thing.

Soon you'll have one less time of day to worry about then you go onto the next time where you find something else to do instead of having sex when you get the urge.

This will go on until you have realised that you are hardly having sex at all. Now you can't truly stop at the very end of not having sex at all ever, but if you die it down it won't become such a big deal.

So my advice is the wein it down stratedgy.

I'm trying to do it less, but i'm still doing it...



It's not the center of the relationship, but it definately happens alot. The pray together thing would be really awkward in this situation as she's a new Christian and really doesn't take it as seriously as I do.



I know he'll forgive me and I've been trying to do this actually. Less and less. But i'm still doing it =\

Well then it sounds like she is influencing you when you should be influencing her...

Fair enough.

Don't go from Hero to Zero.

One less at a time to make the final quit much easier than normal.

That is how you get smokers to quit.