“Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” - Romans 12:12
Negative things may have happened, but don’t let what you’ve been through become your identity. That’s what happened to you; that’s not who you are.
God could have said, “That’s it; I’m done with you.” But he waited. He showed us mercy. He picked us up when we fell. Now he’s asking, “Will you wait on someone for me?” Will you call them, encourage them, let them know that you care? When you refuse to be a victim, when you say no thanks to the bitterness, no thanks to living defeated, God will take what was meant for harm and turn it to your advantage.
It may seem unfair to you, but God is a just and impartial God. He saw what happened. He knows who hurt you, what you lost, what you’re struggling with. He’s not just going to bring you out; He’s going to bring you out better and stronger than before. God will always cause you to triumph no matter the difficult circumstances you may be dealing with.