Quote (Fookass @ Feb 23 2014 02:55pm)

Went to my first meeting today (on my own initiative that is without having a task to do), and it was great. As I said earlier, the pastor is my ex-girlfriends father; and he either saw me coming to the meeting and said things that would fit my situation, or what he said just fit perfectly all randomly. He also said during a prayer that if there were someone in this room who hadn't accepted Christ yet, they should raise their hand (we had our eyes closed). I raised it, and when he prayed after that I really god this insane feeling in my head. Pretty absurd.

On the personal side I'm having serious issues handling this breakup thing. I hope it will get better. I took a step in the wrong direction and said that I've changed and all the things I would do if she gave me another shot... Then the pastor sent me a message that he wanted to call me this week, so I hope I'm not getting yelled at lol. Life ain't easy.

Quote (CaptnCrunch @ Feb 17 2014 02:45pm)

Not supposed to become a Christian for someone else. It will only put stress on your relationship, and that isn't how you truly become saved. By the way, is that girl actually interested in you? Do you actually believe in God, or is that just your "selfish" attempt to get that girl to marry you?

Quote (allthelivelongday @ Feb 26 2014 03:46pm)

Hi, I read through some of your posts and I would like to tell you that we are going through some of the same things.  Here are some things that may help you, feel free to PM me with whatever.

• God has been working in your life since you were born, whether you asked him to or believed he even existed
  
• Your relationship with God should be your #1 priority in life - above family, friends, wife/girlfriend, kids.  When you have strength in that relationship, everything else will be not only easier but stronger as well.
  
• When I pray, I ask God for what I need and what I want.  I understand that my plan for me may be small compared to what God has in store for me.  So I usually include in my prayers something like, "God, I want ...THIS...but if you have something bigger, better or different in mind, I want THAT."

I know what you're saying about things seeming "absurd" or "coincidental".  If you stick with God long enough, you will probably find - like I have - that these "coincidental" things add up.  When you look back on these little details as a whole, it will be apparent that God is working in your life.  You may get a feeling of that already.

To avoid frustration, put God first and be PATIENT.  Put your girlfriend 2nd or 3rd or take her off the list.  You don't want to hear that, but that advice comes from God.  Relax and take refuge in that fact that he is working on saving you, furthering his kingdom and blessing you.

Quote (Panguin @ Feb 26 2014 11:11pm)

Maybe this is God's work. Sure he may have the 'wrong' intentions of being a Christian now, but ultimately he may truly believe in Him. At least he's trying to be a Christian. Me on the other hand, I grew up as a Christian and honestly, I dont do anything like a Christian.

Sure I believe in God, I believe that he gave his only son to pay for OUR sins. But the devil believes in God as well. I dont know exactly where I'm going with this but, to the OP, I say go for it. Go to church with your ex/girlfriend and truly try to find God. You will go through

struggles and life wont be perfect, shit it may even suck. But you have to be persistent. In my opinion, I think God wants us to TRY at the very least. And to that part, I've been fuckin' up. But hey, life goes on.

Quote (allthelivelongday @ Feb 28 2014 11:23pm)

Sounds like you're making the best you can of the situation.  Nice job

Quote (Fookass @ Feb 28 2014 06:55pm)

I'm trying! My mindset is still set on the thought that I'll never find a girl like her again, but I hope that will change in time too. That is my biggest worry, she set the standard so high...

Quote (2Legit2Quit)aS( @ Mar 1 2014 10:06am)

Your doing a good job so far, focus on what is now and deepen your faith. It seems you were led to God by this girl and I am glad you have not let the problems you've had with her get in the way of your faith. Great job and stay strong.
I grew up with no Christian background and my girlfriend which is my wife now led me to God. I can understand where your coming from and at the time I found God, we were broken up just as you and your ex are now. You never know what will happen. So remain hopeful of the future. While I never thought my girlfriend would get back together with me and that was 6 years ago. We are now married happily for 3 years. I say this to you to give you hope and to strengthen you. I love you brother. 

Quote (Fookass @ Mar 1 2014 05:54am)

Thank you very much. That God used her to lead me to Him makes sense, been thinking that thought lately too. I agree that I'll never know what the future will bring, but I don't want to go around hoping her to take me back anymore. That's been a big part of my depression, just crying and praying that she'll take me back. I asked her if there were any chance we would get back together, and she said no. So unless something really surprising happens, it probably won't be us. I just regret so much about so many things that made me lose her in the first place.

Thank you for this encouraging post, much appreciated!

Quote (2Legit2Quit)aS( @ Mar 2 2014 11:36am)