Quote (njaguar @ Mar 18 2012 08:47am)
Sorry, but this is not true at all. These statements will cause others to sin directly and indirectly. Below they are addressed sentence by sentence.
1) Very bad guideline. As you will see from #2, this is a very bad gauge for morality. You cannot define your own morality and be true to God's word.
2) Watching porn is wrong, no matter if your spouse agrees or is into it or not. Watching porn creates a lust and sexual excitement that doesn't originate with your spouse. Sure, you may "use" your spouse as an outlet for that sexual excitement, but you still lusted after someone else in order to get to that point. Lust for your spouse is 100% acceptable, but not for another person, even if it's on a screen or in a magazine, or whatever, which makes porn absolutely not okay. If you claim you're not lusting after the porn star(s), then you're lying, because otherwise you wouldn't need that porn in the first place, as your spouse would be enough and all you need.
3) Again, this relates back to #1. If you are a Christian, you should be grounded in Scripture, and what is right by God, not trying to create your own moral compass.
ghc is doing a very good thing by going to this class at his Church, it should give him and his wife a good foundation for their marriage in Christ.
Amen! What James said about doing about you love (living in your sins) does not align with the Word of God.
Also
"Judgement vs Accountability"This is an article taken from -
http://www.projectinspired.com/the-difference-between-judging-and-hold-people-accountable/ I did not write this but I think it needs to be discussed because most "backslidden" or fallen Christians (or even the unsaved) want to tell you how only God can judge them.
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"Some people think that being a Christian means that you can’t hold others accountable for their inappropriate behavior. When a person is corrected based upon God’s Word, s(he)’ll sometimes say that you’re “judging” him/her. Well, that’s not completely true! Yes, The Bible does say “do not judge” (Luke 6:37) and “do not condemn” (Luke 6:37), however, God also tells us:
“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” (2 Timothy 3:16)
This means that you should be a leader for God by holding other people accountable for their behavior. However, you should always approach situations in a loving manner because God instructs us to “do everything in love” (1 Corinthians 16:14.)
Holding others accountable doesn’t mean being overly critical or demeaning, it simply means to provide guidance and instruction with the intention of correcting behavior.Judgment means ‘to condemn’ and accountability means ‘to correct’. So it’s possible, and even appropriate, to hold others accountable for their behavior WITHOUT judging them!
Also, always remember to use judgment when confronting other people. If the situation is too “big” or too dangerous for you to handle alone, be sure to seek help from a trusted adult immediately! God puts people and resources in your life for a reason so be sure to ask for help if the need arises.
What are some examples of when you should hold other people responsible for their behavior?
If someone is teasing, bullying or being mean to you or others.
When someone takes something without permission.
If someone is cheating on a test or being dishonest.
When something just seems plain wrong, especially if it’s negatively impacting others.
Remember, it’s possible to hold people accountable for their behavior without judging them. What have your experiences been like with ‘holding people accountable’?"
This post was edited by Silenced_Matrix on Mar 18 2012 09:39pm