Quote (SkaDiablo @ Nov 11 2011 01:26pm)
Not necessarily related to christianity.. but I am a pentecostal and I figured this out of any of the other forums would be the place to ask to get the right advice that I was looking for
I went to his house for like 45 minutes before my night class and I was pretty uncomfortable, his brother came in saying I want to get drunk tonight! and then when I was leaving the kid said we should hang out for longer some other time, and we can "smoke some herbs".. I just told him that I'm not into that stuff etc.
But yeah I'm going to try and politely ignore him and see if he gets the picture.. and I also definitely need to pray about it
I don't mean to sound quirky or anything but if he is asking you to buy cigarettes for him and his friend is peer pressuring you into doing something you don't want to do, you are letting them be in control. In other words they are the aggressor and they are making all the demands. You are at the mercy of saying 'yes' to give in and stay friends or you can say 'no' but you will feel bad doing that. That is their strategy of peer pressure, making you feel bad about saying 'no.'
What you need to do is go Renegade and become aggressive in speech saying that your foundation will not be shaken up. You are confident and loud in the way that you say no and you will stand up to your beliefs to the bitter end. In other words YOU are the one that needs to be seen as taking control of the situation instead of being at the mercy of it.