1) Take her to church with you on Sundays. Yes, that means start going, even if it is every other Sunday.
2) Listen to some christian music when you two are together.
3) When you are together, make an effort to study something christian. It doesn't have to be the bible, just anything to have you remember that God is there and watching.

I've tried to find a church with her and i havn't found one I liked. Im a music major and a worship leader so im kinda picky with the music (my fault)
I do put on christian music sometimes but it usually makes things awkward...because of the very thing im trying to stop.
I do talk alot about theology when we're together, but it's lost an hour later....

In all honesty you are making excuses for behavior that you know is wrong .

To repent means to " walk away from " and until you can manage that you will stay unrepentant .

Is your salvation at risk ?

IMHO not if your salvation has been achieved .

Im not making any excuses at all. I know I havn't done it yet, im asking for help. My savlation has been achieved no doubt. I just feel bad

Very solid advice.

Agreed.

I don't believe in the "once saved always saved" philosophy. My understanding of salvation is this -

You must have faith. With that faith it will produce action. Confessing Jesus as lord and acknowledging that you are a sinner. Repenting from your sins and past life. Being baptized.

In your case, you seem to lack the repentance aspect of salvation. I am not one to judge you, but as a Christian I can tell you the truths of the bible. If you are sinning, and refuse to give it up.. you are choosing this world over God. There is a difference in sinning, and living a lifestyle of sin. If you are continuously committing the same act of sin over and over, knowing you will not and cannot stop.. you are not repenting. Jesus said it will be tough being a follower of him. Living a life for Christ is not easy by any means. Only you can choose what is more important.

As far as the situation with you and your school... Keep in mind that leaders in God's church are judged more harshly than those who are not. You are a leader in your chapel, and therefore take all responsibilites associated with that role.

If your intention on making this post was to have people tell you the feel good message of God, well I am not one to do that. Christians these days need to be faced with the harsh realities of what the bible says, and how they will be judged. God is love, but he is also just.


edit - I try to make my way into this forum every once in a while, but often times I do not. I have spoken with you a number of times through pm, so I hope you are comfortable talking to me. If you have any questions or need clarification on anything, feel free to pm me. I may forget to come back in here and check in on this topic

This post was edited by Dune1 on Mar 31 2010 02:43pm

Thanks man, this is honestly exactly what I wanted to hear.

I'm 16 and I'm a virgin.
I don't see what's so hard about keeping my virginity...

Wait until you fall in love. I realized it's really going to be worth waiting from now on and I talked to her about it and we decided to stop for the better of the long run. Please keep praying for me.