since me and my fiance went to marriage classes. and since then i have not watched porn at all... its been terrible i love porn but doing this for my fiance, pretty proud that I made it a month though typically I would look up porn at least 2-5 times a week... lol

I actually just posted this blog I spent countless hours on. Take a look, it's about the freedom you gain from stopping porn!
http://godrestorestestimonials.weebly.com/free-gift-blog.html

Yeah totally, its a curse & it will ruin a marriage.

Good on you, and God bless! May he keep you from sinning

You and your fiance? Went to marriage classes? I'm confused about this, how are ppl who are engaged going to marriage classes? Or do you mean couples therapy, relationship counselling, etc?

Either way, congrats about both the engagement and the total stop of those movies

Was it a mutual dicision taken with you and your fiance, together? Or a third party suggested it to you, without discussing it with the soon to be wife?

My opinion about this:

If you love doing something, do it. If you love doing something but know/feel it's wrong, decide to work on not doing it.
If your fiance somewhat likes those movies, theres nothing wrong with enjoying it with her also, trying to make her a part of what you love is never wrong.
If she doesn't and you feel she's correct about it, then try to make some compromises, together.

I am sorry if this offends you in any way. I just rather get the full story behind it all, before giving a more valid opinion. Instead of questioning it all

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This post was edited by James84 on Mar 17 2012 01:45pm

church requires we take classes before we get married. they refer to them as marriage classes. we don't have any problems with our relationship at all just something i decided to do

It's not a marriage class for those who are already married.. it's for those who are getting married. Within this class it teaches you what to expect in a marriage, and how to keep your marriage strong. Most ministers (or churches) will either have marriage counseling or a marriage class before they marry whoever.

My wife and I did this. It's a smart thing to do.

Unless the Lord builds the house, it's labourers work in vain.

Which is why as we grow closer together as a couple, we also grow closer to God.

This is why all marriages in the secular world are breaking up, because they leave God out if the picture, and are addicted to things such as porn etc...

Glad it wasn't due to any problems
Although, it bothers me to hear you say "church requires we take classes". What do you mean, if you dont, they wont wed you? How could anyone be given a task to do if he/she wants to get something done... You need to work for it and pay for it also
Might just be me, but here we pay priests to wed us. Wich is something I've confessed I'll never ever do (pay).



Does makes sense, it's pretty cool if you ask me. Marriage is a sacred aspect of life, getting all the information about "somewhat" what to expect is pretty neat!
The way he put it though, sounds like he had no choice.



Dont say all, you dont know everyones reasons behind break ups. I do somewhat agree with you and you seem to include God within a marriage. Wich will make me say this (Not sure if you believe in it or not but still):

If one of the partners becomes more and the other cannot yet grasp it, it's understandable that they might break up. Because one of them might have exceeded the other within the Soul.
As I had said before, I believe marriage is sacred, if done for the right reasons. It allows 2 souls to grow together and learn/experience life at a much wholer way then others.

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Anywho, I could go on and on. But I wont stear afar from the topic.

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To, ghc: Again, I'm glad it was a decision made on your own part for the right reasons

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This post was edited by James84 on Mar 17 2012 11:59pm

Sorry, but this is not true at all. These statements will cause others to sin directly and indirectly. Below they are addressed sentence by sentence.

1) Very bad guideline. As you will see from #2, this is a very bad gauge for morality. You cannot define your own morality and be true to God's word.
2) Watching porn is wrong, no matter if your spouse agrees or is into it or not. Watching porn creates a lust and sexual excitement that doesn't originate with your spouse. Sure, you may "use" your spouse as an outlet for that sexual excitement, but you still lusted after someone else in order to get to that point. Lust for your spouse is 100% acceptable, but not for another person, even if it's on a screen or in a magazine, or whatever, which makes porn absolutely not okay. If you claim you're not lusting after the porn star(s), then you're lying, because otherwise you wouldn't need that porn in the first place, as your spouse would be enough and all you need.
3) Again, this relates back to #1. If you are a Christian, you should be grounded in Scripture, and what is right by God, not trying to create your own moral compass.


ghc is doing a very good thing by going to this class at his Church, it should give him and his wife a good foundation for their marriage in Christ.